If You Want To COMPLETELY CHANGE Your Life In 2022, WATCH THIS! | Jordan Peterson

The video is a conversation with Jordan Peterson about the importance of self-identity and how it is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.

The video features a conversation between Jordan Peterson and Tom Bilyeu about the importance of self-identity and how it affects one's life. Peterson explains that identity is like a dramatic role that one plays out in the world and it has to be negotiated with other people. He also talks about how identity is developed in childhood through pretend play and how it expands beyond its egocentric focus as children learn to negotiate with others. The conversation touches on the regulation of aggression in children and how it relates to the development of identity. Overall, the video aims to provide insights and advice on how to completely change one's life in 2022 by understanding the importance of self-identity.

• The video is a conversation with Jordan Peterson about the importance of self-identity and how it is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.
• Identity is a practical concept that is like a dramatic role that we play out in the world.
• Identity is negotiated with other people, especially in childhood.
• Children negotiate their roles and identity in childhood.
• Chaos and order are both necessary but tend towards tyranny if not balanced.
• The phenomenological landscape can be broken into two domains: the known and the unknown.
• Identity can be decomposed into different levels of resolution.
• Identity is negotiated with other people.
• Children and adolescents go through a period of socialization where their identity is molded and shaped by the group.

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Introduction

• The video is a conversation with Jordan Peterson about the importance of self-identity and how it is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.

Identity as a Dramatic Role

• Identity is a practical concept that is like a dramatic role that we play out in the world.
• Our identity has to furnish us with a life while playing that role.
• Identity is negotiated with other people, especially in childhood.
• Children start playing with their own rules and goals in mind, but they have to bring their worlds together and negotiate when they start playing with other kids.
• Identity has to expand beyond its egocentric focus and increasingly be negotiated in the social world.

Developmental Psychology and Identity

• Most children learn to regulate aggression between the ages of two and four.
• There is a subset of children, mostly male, who are very aggressive at the age of two, but they are socialized out of that by the time they're four.
• Children learn to move beyond their egocentric presuppositions and include other children in the play.
• Identity is a sophisticated identity that is a negotiated role.
• Identity is not appropriate for everyone and is associated with certain people.

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Negotiating Identity in Childhood

• Children negotiate their roles and identity in childhood.
• Children cannot insist that only their game be played if they want friends.
• Observational studies of children in playgrounds show that they establish ground rules and develop a consensus on the game they want to play.
• Everyone gets a role in the game, even if they don't have the same materials as others.
• Identity is negotiated in childhood through play and social interaction.

Early Negotiation of Identity

• Children negotiate their identities through play.
• Children learn to integrate into play situations by observing and waiting for an opening.
• Popular kids can still get rebuffed when trying to enter an already structured game.
• Unpopular kids may try to impose their game on the entire group and have a tantrum if they don't get let in.
• Identity negotiation at the earliest stages is different from what is typically thought of as identity.

The Yin and Yang of Chaos and Order

• Chaos and order are both necessary but tend towards tyranny if not balanced.
• Existing only in creative potential leads to chaos, while existing only in conservatism leads to tyranny.
• Identity negotiation is a negotiation with the world and oneself.
• Collectively, negotiation with others is necessary, but so is negotiation with personal values and beliefs.
• The negotiation of identity is complicated and involves balancing chaos and order.

The Known and Unknown

• The phenomenological landscape can be broken into two domains: the known and the unknown.
• The unknown emerges when something is beyond our grasp and reach, leading to anxiety.
• The known is where we are when what we're doing produces the results we want.
• Motivation and emotion are brought into the game when pursuing what we want.
• Not getting what we want can lead to a loss of control and bring up negative thoughts and feelings.

Identity and Pathologies of Structure

• Beyond Order focuses on pathologies of structure, while 12 Rules for Life focuses on chaos.
• Identity negotiation involves balancing chaos and order.
• Identity negotiation is a negotiation with the world and oneself.
• Collectively, negotiation with others is necessary, but so is negotiation with personal values and beliefs.
• The negotiation of identity is complicated and involves balancing chaos and order.

Identity and its Levels

• Identity can be decomposed into different levels of resolution.
• At the highest level, identity can be as simple as moving fingers.
• At a broader level, identity can be typing words, phrases, sentences, paragraphs, chapters, or books.
• Identity can also be nested inside being a clinical psychologist, professor, or good citizen.
• The outermost level of identity is cultural heroism, where fundamental morality is adjudicated.

Negotiating Identity with Others

• Identity is negotiated with other people.
• A functional identity helps in getting what one wants and needs.
• If an identity doesn't work, one can retool either the identity or the world.
• Revolutions try to bring the world into alignment with one's desires.
• There are limits to how far one can go in changing the world, and other people can object.

Socialization and Development

• Children and adolescents go through a period of socialization where their identity is molded and shaped by the group.
• Peers and friends are important to children and adolescents.
• It is a developmental duty to turn one's isolated self into a functioning social unit.
• Knowing the rules of the game is necessary before breaking them and emerging as a genuine individual.
• Development doesn't stop at being a functional social unit, but it is a necessary step.

Conclusion

• Identity is a complex and multi-level concept.
• It is negotiated with others and can be retooled if necessary.
• Socialization is a necessary step in development, but it doesn't stop at being a functional social unit.
• Knowing the rules of the game is necessary before breaking them and emerging as a genuine individual.

The Importance of Abiding by Rules

• Not being able to follow rules does not equate to being a creative individual.
• There is an attempt to confuse the two concepts.
• Social molding crushes individuals, but everyone deals with the tyranny of culture.
• People have to offer culture their pound of flesh, but not at the expense of their soul.
• People should not stay an immature child either.

The Thin Notion of Identity

• The notion of identity that people are being fed is very thin.
• There is the idea that identity is whatever people say it is, and everyone else has to go along with it.
• No one knows how to go along with it.
• Presenting oneself as something other than the categories leaves everyone around the person completely bereft of direction.
• Identity negotiation starts from childhood, and there is a sense of order to it.

The Balance Between Order and Chaos

• People need enough order to find their way through the world.
• Many people do not know how to move forward in a way that serves them spiritually and practically.
• Belief regulates emotion, and acting out beliefs in the world affects the body.
• People default into emergency preparation for action when what they want does not happen.
• People need to be around individuals who share their cultural presuppositions.

The Cost of Acting Out Identity

• Acting out identity when what people want does not happen is draining psychophysiologically.
• People need to stay where what they do has the results they want.
• People prepare to do everything when they do not know what to do.
• Preparing to do everything is costly, and there is an immense physiological literature detailing the cost of that kind of response.
• People and animals stay where what they do has the results they want.

Importance of Identity

• People want to know who they are and what they want.
• People are conservative creatures and cannot tolerate much uncertainty.
• Functional identity regulates emotions.
• Identity is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.
• Identity is socially distributed and most of our sanity is socially distributed.

Importance of Social Institutions and Creative Achievement

• Don't casually denigrate social institutions or creative achievement.
• Most of our sanity is socially distributed.
• Playing with others is important for development.
• Peers help scaffold further development.
• Pay attention to social cues to keep yourself regulated.

Definition of Identity

• Identity is the self-narrative that emerges from interactions with other people and nature.
• Identity is based on a set of behaviors that make sense for us.
• Identity is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.
• Identity is socially distributed and most of our sanity is socially distributed.
• Reframing is important in helping people tell themselves a functional narrative.

Application of Identity in the World

• Identity is important in understanding ourselves and our place in the world.
• Identity is negotiated in the social world, particularly in childhood.
• Functional identity regulates emotions.
• Identity is socially distributed and most of our sanity is socially distributed.
• Reframing is important in helping people tell themselves a functional narrative.

The Fundamental Element of Identity

• The fundamental element of identity is what you act out.
• On top of that, there's the story that you tell.
• Your identity is the story you tell about your actions in the world.
• You can't be consciously aware of everything you do.
• Your identity is also your actions in the world.

Why Identity Matters

• Your identity is the structure from which the plans that you implement in the world originate.
• You're always acting in the world and have problems to solve all the time.
• You have to solve problems in a way that works for today and doesn't screw up tomorrow too bad.
• You're a community of individuals stretched out across time.
• The plans that you implement have to be beneficial for that entire community of individuals.

Useful Identities in Today's Culture

• The more functional your identity, the better regulated your emotion.
• Any insistence that identity is something other than a pragmatic set of actions that orient you properly in the world is sparse.
• Adopting a role that other people find valuable is necessary for trading.
• You have to bring something of value to the table.
• You can't insist on its value; other people have to agree to that.

Sexual Identity and Pathologizing

• People can judge for themselves whether the creation of useful identities has been pathologized in today's culture.
• Adopting a sexual identity is a part of your identity, but it's not the whole thing.
• You can't insist on your sexual identity being the only thing that defines you.
• People have to agree to the value of what you bring to the table.
• Defining yourself in isolation can be problematic.

The Problem with Identity Politics

• Identity politics assumes an implicit theory of identity based on unalterable characteristics like sex, gender, race, and ethnicity.
• This theory of identity is sparse and unnegotiated, which makes it difficult for others to go along with it.
• It doesn't provide a useful guide to action across time because no one knows the rules.
• The association between identity categories and reward isn't obvious, and assuming that the social world is prejudiced and corrupt because of that is a fallacy.
• Identity politics doesn't give people something to strive towards or a historically charged cadre of things to know.

A Nested Theory of Identity

• Identity is negotiated with the external world and is not fixed.
• Merely insisting that you're a certain way doesn't give anyone else any guidelines to go along with except for your whim.
• Identity is nested within different games, professions, and archetypes.
• The world is order versus chaos, and the balance of order and chaos is good versus evil.
• You're either the hero or the adversary, or a mixture of both.

The Importance of Self-Identity

• Culture encourages individuals to take on the role of the hero associated with love.
• Love is defined in the second book and Beyond Order.
• Self-authoring helps individuals craft a useful identity.
• Identity statements drive behaviors.
• Behaviorists break things down to the level of implementable behavior.

Creating Useful Identity Statements

• Identity statements are statements that make individuals act in the way they should be acting.
• Identity statements are repeated over and over again.
• Some identity statements are aspirational and become true over time.
• Identity statements are decomposed to the level of implementable behavior.
• Behaviors concentrate on the level of bodily actions.

Disjunctions Between Self-Description and Actions

• Therapy helps individuals notice disjunctions between self-description and actions.
• Relationships also involve noticing disjunctions between self-description and actions.
• Many arguments are caused by disjunctions between self-description and actions.
• Psychoanalytic types might be more inclined to alter global statements.
• Part of therapy involves noticing discordance between self-description and actions.

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