How to Uncover What's Actually Holding You Back | Gary John Bishop on Impact Theory

The video is about how to uncover and understand the subconscious factors that hold people back in life, and how to develop self-awareness to navigate them.

The video is an interview with author Gary John Bishop on the topic of uncovering what is holding people back in life. Bishop discusses the idea that individuals create their own reality and are both the agent in the matrix and the rebels. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and how people often have blind spots in their understanding of themselves. Bishop suggests that asking the right questions and engaging in the right conversations can help individuals gain a deeper understanding of themselves and overcome their limitations.

• We create our own experience of being alive.
• Understanding what's driving us is crucial to overcoming struggles.
• Developing self-awareness is important to navigate subconscious factors.
• Self-help is a process of developing self-awareness.
• Real awareness begins when people start to make sense of themselves.
• Questioning beliefs and perspectives is important to develop self-awareness.
• Childhood elements can hold people back and prevent them from developing self-awareness.
• Realization and disillusionment are important to see beyond oneself and one's perspective.
• People's brains put building blocks together to create evidence for their beliefs.

How to Uncover What's Actually Holding You Back | Gary John Bishop on Impact Theory - YouTube

Creating Our Own Reality

• We are both the agent in the matrix and the rebels.
• We are creating our own experience of being alive.
• We set up the game subconsciously.
• We follow predictable pathways.
• We struggle with some things.

Understanding What's Driving Us

• How we fundamentally relate to ourselves is very deep and profound.
• We are so wrapped up in the surface issues of our life that we can't see what's driving us.
• Whatever we're struggling with today, we'll continue to wrestle with that until we die.
• We need to understand what's driving us to overcome our struggles.
• It's important to set aside psychological explanations and focus on how things keep unfolding for us.

Developing Self-Awareness

• Real awareness is starting to get aware of oneself.
• Most people think they are pretty aware, but they are blind and deaf to their own wiring.
• There are blind spots everywhere in people's conversations.
• People speak from the world that they're in, but they don't experience themselves as being in a world.
• It's important to ask the right kind of questions and engage in the right kind of conversation to help people see their blind spots.

How to Uncover What's Actually Holding You Back | Gary John Bishop on Impact Theory - YouTube

The Process of Self-Help

• It's important to develop self-awareness to navigate our subconscious factors.
• People need to tell about themselves to see their blind spots.
• It's not about telling people, but asking the right kind of questions.
• People start to join the dots up for themselves when they see their blind spots.
• Self-help is a process of developing self-awareness.

Realizing the Subconscious Factors

• People need to connect the dots to understand their own actions, thoughts, and emotional states.
• True awareness begins when people start to make sense of themselves.
• Understanding the subconscious factors that hold people back is crucial to developing self-awareness.
• Self-awareness helps people navigate their subconscious factors and overcome them.
• People need to logically connect their own actions, thoughts, and emotional states to develop true awareness.

Example of Uncovering Subconscious Factors

• Gary John Bishop shares his personal story of realizing his perspective was holding him back.
• He thought he was struggling with the same things as everyone else.
• He was working hard to make everything in his life turn out right.
• He realized he had never had a day where everything was perfect.
• He started to dig down and realized his entire past was only a perspective.

Questioning Beliefs and Perspectives

• People confuse what they have chosen to believe with objective truth.
• People need to realize they are living a collection of beliefs that have formed a perspective.
• People fight for their dysfunctional beliefs and perspectives.
• People need to question their narrative and beliefs to develop self-awareness.
• People spend their adult life overcoming a truth they made up.

Childhood and Subconscious Factors

• Many of the things that hook people as adults are from their childhood.
• People need to understand the elements they took away from their childhood.
• People build their lives upon the elements they took away from their childhood.
• Understanding childhood elements helps people navigate their subconscious factors.
• Childhood elements can hold people back and prevent them from developing self-awareness.

Challenging Beliefs

• Questioning beliefs that have been built over time.
• People build their lives around certain beliefs.
• People fight for their narrative because they have built their lives around it.
• People never get to see beyond their own perspective.
• People may have built their lives on the illusion of control.

Realization and Disillusionment

• Realizing that one has created an illusion that is tied enough to reality.
• Disillusionment of all narrative in totality.
• Discovering something that is a true discovery.
• Seeing the tentacles and how it spread throughout one's life.
• Understanding why one would take a certain pathway.
• Realizing the carnage that has been caused in one's life.

Awareness of Self

• Getting a sense of awareness of self.
• Exploring a greater self that is there but only a small part.
• Choosing to pursue brain patterns and automatic behaviors or recognizing when they are at play.
• Starting to see beyond oneself and one's perspective.
• Understanding that people are wired to create their own reality but have no sense of creating it.

Building Evidence for Beliefs

• People's brains put building blocks together to create evidence for their beliefs.
• People build evidence for their beliefs to survive in life.
• People have no experience of creating their own reality.
• People blame themselves for their beliefs and actions.
• People need to understand that they are wired to create their own reality.

Recognizing Default Self

• Recognizing default self allows for choice.
• Patterns, triggers, and emotions can be noticed and set aside.
• Indulging in personal patterns can lead to disconnection.
• Exploring relationships with others can lead to personal growth.
• Childhood memories can reveal forgotten aspects of oneself.

Creating Connection

• Creating connection involves recognizing personal narratives.
• Personal narratives can create barriers in relationships.
• Personal victories can be a reaction to past mistakes.
• Blaming others can create disconnection.
• Apologizing and expressing love can create connection.

Letting Go of Judgment

• Judgment can create a scorecard mentality.
• Blaming others can create a false sense of victory.
• Blaming others can create a false sense of connection.
• Recognizing personal responsibility can lead to personal growth.
• Apologizing and expressing love can lead to personal growth.

Expressing Vulnerability

• Expressing vulnerability can lead to personal growth.
• Expressing vulnerability can create connection.
• Expressing vulnerability can lead to personal healing.
• Expressing vulnerability can lead to forgiveness.
• Expressing vulnerability can lead to personal freedom.

Learning to Love

• The speaker realized he had become emotionally closed off and wanted to be a more loving person.
• He struggled with knowing how to love and had to relearn it.
• He decided to engage with people from a loving place and not expect anything in return.
• He stopped blaming others for his own emotional state and took responsibility for being the person he wanted to be.
• He learned to love people for who they are, not who he wanted them to be.

Accepting People for Who They Are

• The speaker's mother initially reacted negatively to his surprise visit.
• Instead of getting angry, the speaker laughed and accepted his mother's reaction as part of who she is.
• He learned to love his mother for who she is, not who he wanted her to be.
• He realized that he had spent his whole life waiting for people to love him, instead of loving them first.
• He took responsibility for his own emotional state and stopped blaming others for it.

Self-Awareness and Personal Growth

• The speaker's realization about his own emotional state was a turning point in his life.
• He questioned what it would be like to be with someone who wanted him to be different all the time.
• He learned to respect his mother for who she is and not try to change her.
• He realized that he had been too focused on judging others and not enough on his own personal growth.
• He took responsibility for becoming the person he wanted to be and stopped blaming others for his emotional state.

The Importance of Self-Reflection

• The speaker's experience with his mother taught him the importance of self-reflection.
• He realized that he had been too focused on judging others and not enough on his own personal growth.
• He learned to accept people for who they are and not try to change them.
• He took responsibility for his own emotional state and stopped blaming others for it.
• He learned that personal growth requires self-awareness and a willingness to change.

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