Why You Need to Stop Saying What People Want to Hear | Kyle Cease on Impact Theory

The video is about Kyle Cease discussing the importance of being authentic and not saying what people want to hear, and how this can lead to transformation and success in life.

The video features an interview with Kyle Cease, an actor, comedian, and transformational expert. Cease discusses the importance of being authentic and not saying what people want to hear. He believes that people often block their true feelings and bring something prepared earlier in the day, which prevents them from connecting with others. Cease also talks about the difference between goals and intentions and how he has transitioned from being a comic to using comedy to help himself and others transform.

• Kyle Cease's background in stand-up comedy and success in the industry.
• The importance of being authentic and connecting with others.
• The difference between goals and intentions and the power of transformation.
• The importance of being present in the moment and letting go of limiting beliefs.
• The power of being authentic and letting go of fear and control.
• Breaking free from limiting stories and justifications.
• The mind-body connection and living authentically.
• Letting go of fear and embracing change.
• Letting go of physical possessions as a way to let go of emotional baggage.

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Kyle Cease's Background and Success

• Kyle Cease started performing stand-up comedy at the age of 12 and was headlining by the time he was 18.
• He won first place in Comedy Central's Laugh Riots competition and earned a number one ranking on Comedy Central's Stand-Up Showdown.
• He had two number one specials on Comedy Central and made more than 100 appearances in film and television.
• At the height of his success, he transitioned from being a comic to being someone who uses comedy to help himself and others transform.
• He now leads his transformational event Evolving Out Loud to sold-out crowds and appears on stage with such luminaries as Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Jim Carrey, and Deepak Chopra.

The Importance of Being Authentic

• People often say what they think others want to hear instead of what they are really feeling.
• Being authentic creates a space where the person across from you can connect with you.
• Preparing something often blocks what you're feeling and brings something that you prepared earlier in the day.
• Not preparing is easier and more true.
• When you go to a restaurant, you don't have a set list of things to say, you just say what you feel.

The Difference Between Goals and Intentions

• Kyle Cease differentiates between goals and intentions.
• Goals are specific and measurable, while intentions are more about the feeling and the energy behind what you want to create.
• Intentions are more about the journey, while goals are more about the destination.
• Intentions allow for more flexibility and openness to the universe, while goals can be limiting and rigid.
• Intentions can lead to transformation and success in life.

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The Power of Transformation

• Kyle Cease believes that transformation is the key to success in life.
• Transformation is about letting go of who you think you are and becoming who you really are.
• Transformation is a process of shedding old beliefs and patterns and creating new ones.
• Transformation requires vulnerability and the willingness to be uncomfortable.
• Transformation can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life.

The Power of Intention

• A goal is something you can see the outcome of, while an intention is an inner, in-the-moment goal.
• Life can mirror your intention, so it's important to set an intentional inner goal.
• Many people have intentions, but they haven't created them intentionally.
• An intention is something you become, and it changes you as a person.
• Goals are often created from an egoic state and bring in your past story.

Being Present in the Moment

• Everything you perceive about yourself from your past doesn't exist right now.
• You are just this moment, and you can push your potential in any direction you want.
• Realize that everything you think you are from past accomplishments or future goals are not you.
• Thoughts that come from evidence of one thing in the past don't define you.
• The problem isn't the thought, it's your resistance to the thought.

The Importance of Letting Go

• Letting go of resistance to negative thoughts can free you.
• Resistance to thoughts is the problem, not the thoughts themselves.
• Thoughts are just thoughts that we have, and they're not bigger than us.
• All those things that we think we are that feel limited are the only evidence we have of our past.
• You are not your past, and you can let go of limiting beliefs.

The Power of Being Authentic

• Being authentic means not saying what people want to hear.
• When you're authentic, you can transform and succeed in life.
• Being authentic means being vulnerable and letting go of the need to control.
• When you're authentic, you can connect with people on a deeper level.
• Authenticity is the key to true success and fulfillment in life.

Letting Go of Fear and Embracing Change

• Transitioning out of stand-up comedy and dealing with backlash from former colleagues
• Letting go of something scary can be difficult because the mind can only measure what will be lost, not what will be gained
• When feeling lost, focus on the gain rather than the loss
• Challenges that trigger us are often illusions
• Most people think temporary things are permanent
• Emotions are passing things, but there is a permanent feeling of silence and space in the moment

Breaking Free from Limiting Stories

• Helping people release their stories and limiting beliefs
• Challenges that trigger us are often illusions
• Most people think temporary things are permanent
• Emotions are passing things, but there is a permanent feeling of silence and space in the moment
• Shifting perspective by focusing on what's true
• Most of our pain comes from holding onto things that are heavy in our lives

Letting Go of Justifications and Embracing Authenticity

• Justifications are a sign that you don't really want something
• Don't justify your choices to anyone
• Some people hold onto things they don't really want because of past beliefs or expectations
• Letting go of physical possessions can be a way to let go of emotional baggage
• Don't lower yourself to your mind's understanding of why you're ignoring your body
• There are two voices within us: the mind and the body

The Mind-Body Connection and Living Authentically

• The mind and body are two separate voices within us
• The mind is often focused on the past or future, while the body is present in the moment
• Living authentically means listening to your body and following its guidance
• Authenticity is not about being perfect, but about being true to yourself
• Living authentically can lead to transformation and success in life
• Letting go of fear and embracing change is key to living authentically

The First Voice

• The first voice is the one that tells you the next step.
• It's the quick inspired moment that shows up.
• It's the voice that says things like "what if we left this company?"
• It's an inspired thing that is a preview.
• The feeling is a preview, but it can't tell you why you should do that.

The Second Voice

• The second voice is a collection of the average society.
• It's the practical voice that says you need to be responsible.
• It's the should voice that comes from society.
• Society is kind of crazy, and there are a lot of unhappy people.
• The first voice goes "I think we should do this," and we go right to the second voice that says why we shouldn't.

Building a Healthy Story

• Help people get okay with where they are.
• Understand that you're enough first because otherwise, you're always moving from a place of lack and fixing.
• Many people feel guilty about something, but if you go to your heart, you can understand why you did something.
• Our pain comes from trying to get society to understand why we did something.
• The collective society isn't at a consciousness where they've forgiven themselves for anything.

The Lesson Learned

• Kyle Cease's mother passed away six weeks before his daughter was born.
• He learned that he had to take a real look at what was going on.
• He was really real about what he was going through.
• It's important to create space and step into space.
• Understand at a visceral level what's happening.

Expectations and Heartbreak

• Breaking expectations can lead to heartbreak.
• People often have ownership expectations in relationships.
• Living in the moment and appreciating it can help avoid expectations.
• Expectations can prevent people from enjoying the present moment.
• Breaking expectations can lead to personal growth and transformation.

Mourning and Transformation

• Kyle's mother passed away six weeks before his daughter was born.
• Kyle allowed himself to feel the pain of his mother's death.
• Talking about his feelings on camera was therapeutic for Kyle.
• Kyle's daughter was born healthy and perfect.
• Kyle believes his mother's passing allowed him to become a direct father to his daughter.

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