“Stop Taking Therapy Advice From Instagram” - Seerut Chawla

Last updated: Dec 31, 2023

The video is about the concept of "codling," which refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience. The speaker argues that this culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions. The video discusses examples of this culture on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges. The speaker also discusses the concept of psychodynamic or psychoanalytic therapy, which is a form of therapy that aims to understand the mind's conflicts and how the past is alive in the present. The video argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.

This video by Chris Williamson was published on Dec 30, 2023.
Video length: 01:12:33.

The video is about the concept of "codling," which refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.

The speaker argues that codling is related to social media, therapy culture, and pop psychology, and that it is an extension of childhood that is now extended into adulthood. The speaker provides examples of how codling manifests in adult behavior, such as safe spaces, trigger warnings, and the fear of causing offense. The speaker also discusses the concern over protectionism strategies on college campuses and the potential impact on adult mental health.

The speaker is a practicing psychotherapist with expertise in psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy, and argues that the mind is divided against itself and that unconscious conflicts often occur.

  • The concept of "codling" refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • This culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • The safety culture codling culture for adults is closely linked to examples such as university campuses, pop psychology, and liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
  • In psychoanalytic thinking, depression or anxiety is seen as a symptom of an underlying infection that needs to be addressed.
  • The line the speaker would draw is that when you prevent children from experiencing anything difficult, you stop any form of conflict or difficulty with other children.
  • Children younger and younger are getting on social media, leading to a level of disconnection and less rough and tumble play.
  • Parents are often hovering too closely around their children, removing obstacles from their path and not giving them space to develop.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.

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Section 1: Introduction

  • The speaker introduces the concept of "codling," which refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • The speaker argues that this culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • The speaker discusses examples of this culture on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
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Section 2: Codling as a Safety Culture for Children

  • The speaker explains that codling is a safety culture for children, which seems to stunt their ability to overcome obstacles, mitigate their emotions, and have any sort of resilience.
  • The speaker argues that children need safety, but overprotecting them can seem to stunt their development.
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Section 3: Extension of Coddled Childhood to Adults

  • The speaker explains that the sort of extension of childhood that coddled that coddled childhood is now extended to adults.
  • The speaker argues that treating adults like infants who are incapable infants who couldn't cope with a different opinion and if they have the misfortune of coming into contact with an opinion that makes them uncomfortable then they need a safe space with puppies and coloring books.
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Section 4: Behaviors of the Safety Culture Codling Culture for Adults

  • The speaker explains that the safety culture codling culture for adults is closely linked to examples such as university campuses, pop psychology, and liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Concept of "Codling"

  • The concept of "codling" refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • This culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • Examples of this culture can be seen on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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Psychoanalytic Thinking

  • In psychoanalytic thinking, depression or anxiety is seen as a symptom of an underlying infection that needs to be addressed.
  • The patient or client would see a psychiatrist or get whatever they need, but at the same time the underlying infection would be worked on.
  • The speaker notes that this is outside of their area of expertise, but draws a line between what sounds a little bit like what Ben Shapiro might talk about a lot and mental health.
  • The line they would draw is that when you prevent children from experiencing anything difficult, you stop any form of conflict or difficulty with other children.
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The Impact of Codling on Children

  • Children younger and younger are getting on social media, leading to a level of disconnection and less rough and tumble play.
  • Parents are often hovering too closely around their children, removing obstacles from their path and not giving them space to develop.
  • This stunts their ability to have the skills they need as an adult and manage their emotions around difficult situations.
  • The speaker notes that vast groups of adults struggle to manage their emotions when something difficult comes up.
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The Immune System and Antifragility

  • The immune system learns to fight off pathogens by coming into contact with them, just as children learn to develop resilience by experiencing difficult things.
  • Children who live in households with a dishwasher have doubled the rates of asthma, while children who live with a dog have half the rates of asthma.
  • The safety culture in schools and society has led to a rise in peanut allergies and other health issues.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Concept of Victimhood

  • The concept of victimhood is a popular term that refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • This culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • Examples of this culture can be found on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Difference Between Being Victimized and Identifying as a Victim

  • There is a big difference between actually having been victimized and identifying as a victim.
  • People who have been victimized often do not want to self-identify as a victim because it adds to the retraumatization feelings of having the agency taken away from them.
  • People who identify as victims often do so because it gives them a helpful framework that explains what's going on for them while also giving them social currency.
  • Identifying as a victim is more likely to make people less likely to be demonized and attacked.
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The Difference Between Pain and Trauma

  • Pain is a reality of life that everyone experiences, while trauma is a response to a traumatic event that completely overloads a person's capacity to cope.
  • Traumatic exposure is going through something that leaves an injury that is neurobiological and psychological.
  • Symptoms of trauma include flashbacks, reliving the experience, insomnia, intrusive thoughts, pervasive overwhelming feelings of shame or that you're a bad person, and complete damage to a person's capacity to attach to other people.
  • Developing PTSD is not the same as going through something traumatic, and protective factors such as meaningful relationships and support can help mitigate the impacts of a traumatic experience.
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The Impact of Trauma on Human Identity

  • Trauma can have a significant impact on a person's identity, making them more likely to respond to the traumatic thing they went through in their every day life.
  • Developing PTSD is not the same as going through something traumatic, and protective factors such as meaningful relationships and support can help mitigate the impacts of a traumatic experience.
  • People who develop PTSD often do not have support and also sometimes have a history of some form of abuse or mental health difficulties or temperament individual temperament.
  • The speaker argues that being impacted by what happened to you is not victimhood, but making an identity out of it.
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The Concept of "Codling"

  • The speaker argues that the concept of "codling" refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • This culture is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • Examples of this culture are found on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Concept of Psychodynamic Therapy

  • The speaker discusses the concept of psychodynamic or psychoanalytic therapy, which is a form of therapy that aims to understand the mind's conflicts and how the past is alive in the present.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Impact of Victimhood on Adults

  • The speaker argues that when your agency is taken away, it can lead to a paralyzing feeling and can form the fabric of who you are.
  • People who have been victimized may make an identity out of victimhood or always feel like a victim.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Need for Help with Integration and Agency

  • The speaker argues that people who have been victimized need help integrating what happened to them and forming a cohesive narrative around it.
  • They also need to learn how to take their agency back or learn how to tap into it.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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Section 1: The Concept of "Codling"

  • The speaker argues that the culture of "codling" is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • This culture is evident on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture is harmful and stunts development and resilience.
  • The concept of "codling" is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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Section 2: The Desire for Status

  • The speaker argues that the desire for status is a driving force behind the codling culture.
  • This desire is fueled by the belief that having a mental illness gives people power and control over their lives.
  • The speaker suggests that this desire is not solely about overreach for status, but also about pathologizing problems.
  • Pathologizing problems gives people a sense of control over what's happening in their lives, which can be comforting in a chaotic world.
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Section 3: The Difference Between Genuinely Mentally Ill and Worried Well

  • The speaker argues that there is a difference between people who are genuinely mentally ill and those who are worried well.
  • Genuinely mentally ill people are struggling with real issues, while worried well people are simply neurotic and susceptible to negative feelings.
  • The speaker suggests that the level of information shared online under the guise of psychoeducation does not help, as it is completely decontextualized knowledge.
  • In the UK, therapists and psychotherapists are not allowed to diagnose people, and it takes time to learn how to discern what something is.
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Section 4: The Differences Between Psychoeducation and Psychoanalysis

  • The speaker argues that there are differences between psychoeducation and psychoanalysis.
  • Psychoeducation is based on decontextualized knowledge, while psychoanalysis is based on understanding the mind's conflicts and how the past is alive in the present.
  • The speaker suggests that psychoanalysis is a form of therapy that aims to understand the mind's conflicts and how the past is alive in the present.
  • The speaker argues that psychoanalysis is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Concept of "Codling"

  • The speaker argues that the culture of "codling" is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • This culture is evident on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture is harmful and stunts development and resilience.
  • The concept of "codling" is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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The Problematic Nature of Spirit Animals

  • The speaker argues that spirit animals are problematic because they are culturally appropriating a Native American idea.
  • The language used to describe spirit animals is often woolly and open to interpretation, which can lead to misinterpretation.
  • The speaker believes that people feel like their emotions are a personal curse on them, which can lead to a desire for validation and recognition.
  • The speaker argues that people's emotions are not personal curses, and that it is important to understand that there are resources and help available.
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The Need for Understanding Emotions

  • The speaker argues that people often feel like their emotions are a personal curse on them, which can lead to a desire for validation and recognition.
  • The speaker believes that people's emotions are not personal curses, and that it is important to understand that there are resources and help available.
  • The speaker argues that people often feel like they don't know the texture of other people's minds, which can lead to a desire for validation and recognition.
  • The speaker believes that it is important to understand that people's emotions are not personal curses, and that it is important to communicate and understand each other's emotions.
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The Need for Communication

  • The speaker argues that people often feel like their emotions are a personal curse on them, which can lead to a desire for validation and recognition.
  • The speaker believes that people's emotions are not personal curses, and that it is important to communicate and understand each other's emotions.
  • The speaker argues that people often feel like they don't know the texture of other people's minds, which can lead to a desire for validation and recognition.
  • The speaker believes that it is important to communicate and understand each other's emotions, in order to build stronger relationships.
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The Concept of "Codling"

  • The speaker argues that the culture of "codling" extends to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • This culture is evident on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges.
  • The speaker argues that this culture stunts development and resilience.
  • The concept of "codling" is related to the idea of "safety culture" and "safetyism".
  • The speaker argues that this culture is harmful and needs to be challenged.
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The Concept of Psychodynamic Therapy

  • The speaker discusses the concept of psychodynamic therapy, which aims to understand the mind's conflicts and how the past is alive in the present.
  • The speaker argues that this therapy is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
  • The speaker argues that this therapy is not always effective and can lead to a crutch or defining characteristic.
  • The speaker argues that this therapy is not always necessary and can be replaced by other forms of therapy or self-reflection.
  • The speaker argues that this therapy is not always appropriate and can be harmful in some cases.
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The Culture of Therapy

  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is enveloped society and even the way we speak.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is a sort of codification of fragility.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is masquerading as psychology or psychotherapy.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is watering down important concepts like trauma and PTSD.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is creating a blanket around people and ensuring that they won't necessarily be resilient.
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The Difference Between Psychology and Mental Health

  • The speaker argues that actual mental health is rarely spoken about in any real way apart from maybe anxiety and depression.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is conflating the two things, which is absurd.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is lowering the bar for mental health awareness.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is giving people's scripts for life.
  • The speaker argues that the culture of therapy is creating a blanket around people and ensuring that they won't necessarily be resilient.
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The Concept of "Codling"

  • The speaker argues that the culture of "codling" is extended to adults, who are treated like incapable infants and need safe spaces to cope with different opinions.
  • The concept of "codling" refers to a culture of overprotection and safety that stunts development and resilience.
  • Examples of this culture on university campuses, in pop psychology, and in liberal arts colleges are discussed.
  • The speaker argues that this culture war topic is not just about adult mental health, but also about the expertise of practicing psychotherapists and psychoanalysts.
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