Rachel Hollis Shares Her Secrets for Reframing The Toughest Years of Your Life

Last updated: Jun 1, 2023

The video is an interview with Rachel Hollis about her book on dealing with trauma and how she reframed her mindset during the tough times of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The video is an interview with Rachel Hollis, author of the book "Didn't See That Coming: Putting Life Back Together When Your World Falls Apart." Hollis discusses how she wrote the book during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, when she was struggling to keep her business afloat and dealing with personal trauma. She shares her tips for reframing tough times and finding hope in difficult situations. The interview also touches on Hollis's career as an entrepreneur and author, and her approach to writing books that combine humor and serious topics.

  • The video is an interview with Rachel Hollis about her book on dealing with trauma and how she reframed her mindset during the tough times of the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • Rachel talks about how she coped with the stress by drinking too much vodka, but eventually realized she needed to get her act together.
  • Rachel emphasizes the importance of having hope that things will get better, but also being self-aware enough to understand that every day until then may be difficult.
  • Rachel talks about how mindset is key to getting through tough times and how reframing your thoughts can make a big difference.
  • Rachel encourages viewers to embrace tough times as an opportunity for growth and to focus on what they can control.
  • Rachel Hollis had the foresight to see that the pandemic would last longer than just a couple of weeks.
  • The pandemic will have far-reaching ramifications, and many people are experiencing loss or trauma.
  • Rachel Hollis wanted to write a book that meets her readers where they are at during the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • Rachel Hollis mentions her divorce in the book because she was editing it during that time.

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Introduction

  • The video is an interview with Rachel Hollis about her book on dealing with trauma and how she reframed her mindset during the tough times of the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • The host welcomes Rachel Hollis to the show and they discuss her new book.
  • The host asks Rachel why she wrote a book about dealing with trauma.
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Dealing with Trauma

  • Rachel talks about how she freaked out during the first 10 days of quarantine due to the impact on her business and employees.
  • She shares that she has been an entrepreneur for 17 years and has dealt with tough times before.
  • Rachel talks about how she coped with the stress by drinking too much vodka, but eventually realized she needed to get her act together.
  • She explains that she was editing a book she had already written, but realized it was tone-deaf given the current situation.
  • Rachel talks about how she decided to write a book about navigating tough times and what she would want to say to her readers during this time.
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Hope and Mindset

  • Rachel talks about how she has lived through many tough situations and has learned how to navigate them.
  • She emphasizes the importance of having hope that things will get better, but also being self-aware enough to understand that every day until then may be difficult.
  • Rachel talks about how mindset is key to getting through tough times and how reframing your thoughts can make a big difference.
  • She shares some of the strategies she uses to reframe her mindset, such as focusing on gratitude and finding joy in small things.
  • Rachel emphasizes the importance of taking care of yourself during tough times and finding ways to cope that work for you.
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Personal Growth and Resilience

  • Rachel talks about how tough times can be an opportunity for personal growth and resilience.
  • She shares some of the lessons she has learned from tough situations, such as the importance of asking for help and being vulnerable.
  • Rachel emphasizes the importance of taking action and not letting fear hold you back.
  • She talks about how resilience is a muscle that can be strengthened over time.
  • Rachel encourages viewers to embrace tough times as an opportunity for growth and to focus on what they can control.
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Conclusion

  • The host thanks Rachel for sharing her insights and encourages viewers to check out her new book.
  • Rachel emphasizes the importance of taking care of yourself and finding ways to cope during tough times.
  • She encourages viewers to focus on what they can control and to have hope that things will get better.
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Writing during the pandemic

  • Rachel Hollis had the foresight to see that the pandemic would last longer than just a couple of weeks.
  • She wrote her book during the pandemic because she could see how much it would devastate the economy for years to come.
  • She wasn't writing for people who didn't know when quarantine would end, but for those who were experiencing loss or trauma.
  • Her book has a different tone than her usual writing, but she still wanted it to be hopeful and illustrate things in a way that people could hear.
  • She wanted to create something that would be helpful for people during this crisis.
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The far-reaching ramifications of the pandemic

  • The pandemic will have far-reaching ramifications, and many people are experiencing loss or trauma.
  • PTSD may come out of this for healthcare workers.
  • Rachel Hollis is optimistic, but she could see that this could get really bad.
  • The economy has essentially been shot, and it will take years to recover.
  • Many people are struggling to pay rent or have lost their jobs.
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The space case analogy

  • The pandemic is like a space case, where the economy has been hit so hard but with government subsidies, everything seems fine.
  • When you back that vehicle up, you don't know what's going to happen.
  • It's like a person who's been shot and is bleeding out, but nobody knows how serious it is yet because they seem fine.
  • The pandemic has hit businesses hard, and many have had to close their doors permanently.
  • There is a loss in many communities due to the pandemic.
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The emotional toll of the pandemic

  • Many people are experiencing anger and sadness due to the loss caused by the pandemic.
  • Restaurants and businesses that have been around for decades are closing their doors permanently.
  • There is a sense of loss in many communities due to the pandemic.
  • People are struggling to cope with the emotional toll of the pandemic.
  • It's important to find ways to support each other during this difficult time.
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Writing the Book

  • Rachel Hollis wanted to write a book that meets her readers where they are at during the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • She wanted to walk through the tough times with her readers instead of guiding them somewhere.
  • The book is about dealing with trauma and how to reframe your mindset during tough times.
  • Rachel acknowledges that the pandemic is hard, but there is still beauty and goodness in this time.
  • She encourages readers to get through the tough times instead of numbing out with distractions like TikTok or Netflix.
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Addressing the Divorce

  • Rachel Hollis mentions her divorce in the book because she was editing it during that time.
  • She felt like she had to address it because it was a big part of her life and her audience knows her for being honest about what she has gone through.
  • Teaching from scars means teaching from places that have healed over and that you have done the work on, not from open wounds.
  • Rachel did not want to teach around her divorce in the book, but she had to explain what happened and how it affected her writing process.
  • The book became more nuanced in the editing process and reflected the pain Rachel was going through at the time.
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Navigating Press and Respect

  • Rachel Hollis is navigating press for her book and having to talk about her divorce a lot.
  • She wants to be respectful of her ex-husband and not have only one person be asked about the divorce.
  • It is a difficult time for her, and she is trying to navigate it with grace.
  • Rachel cares deeply about being respectful of her ex-husband and not saying anything negative about him.
  • She is also trying to balance being honest about her experience while not oversharing or hurting anyone.
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Connecting with Others

  • Rachel Hollis enjoys connecting with others who have a similar life to hers.
  • She finds joy in talking to people who understand the very weird things that come with her job.
  • The goal of her show is to have conversations with people that feel like sitting down with friends and talking about all the things.
  • Rachel finds it interesting how she shares everything in her book and how it connects her with others who have gone through similar experiences.
  • She wants to create a space where people can be vulnerable and share their stories without judgment.
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Dealing with Trauma

  • The book speaks from the scar and not from the wound.
  • The author has been through something gnarly and has reframed her mindset.
  • The danger of developing a loop when people ask the same question repeatedly.
  • It is risky to become a loop when you need to process through and figure out what is actually going on.
  • People take snippets instead of the full context of what you said.
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Dealing with Negative Comments

  • The author used to read every comment, but it became overwhelming as she got bigger.
  • She sent a group text to her closest friends, saying she does not consume comments on social media.
  • She only finds out about negative comments when someone sends her a text.
  • She does not give attention to negative comments.
  • She has laughed at how awful life is so many times in the last six months.
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Dealing with Divorce

  • The author is going through a collaborative divorce, which is the best possible thing if you have kids.
  • Divorce meetings are really hard, and it was brutal at the beginning.
  • She was advised to block out 90 minutes after the meetings.
  • She thought of finding motivational speeches on YouTube for people going through divorce.
  • She found some videos, but they were awful.
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Dealing with Tough Times

  • The author has learned that if she cares too much about how she is received, she would stop doing anything at all.
  • She tries to bring value and then lets it be.
  • She laughs at how awful life is to avoid crying.
  • She needs something motivational to get through tough times.
  • She wonders if anyone has created videos on YouTube for people going through divorce.
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Rachel Hollis' Experience with Energy Healing

  • Rachel Hollis saw an energy healer after experiencing a negative video about herself on YouTube.
  • The energy healer does not use her hands, but instead talks through the patient's experiences.
  • The healer asks questions about specific ages and experiences in the patient's life.
  • Patients often have emotional reactions and cry during the session.
  • The experience is similar to therapy, but the patient leads the conversation.
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What is Cold Reading?

  • Cold reading is a technique used by mentalists to suggest information to a person without them realizing it.
  • The mentalist will ask leading questions and make assumptions based on the person's reactions.
  • Cold reading is often used in psychic readings to make it seem like the reader has special abilities.
  • Cold reading is not real and is simply a form of entertainment.
  • Rachel Hollis was once convinced that mentalists had real psychic abilities until she learned about cold reading.
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How Energy Healing Works

  • Energy healing is a form of alternative medicine that focuses on the energy fields around the body.
  • Energy healers believe that blockages in these fields can cause physical and emotional problems.
  • Energy healing can be done through touch or by talking through the patient's experiences.
  • Energy healing is not scientifically proven to be effective, but some people find it helpful for managing stress and anxiety.
  • Rachel Hollis found that energy healing helped her process trauma from her childhood.
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The Benefits of Energy Healing

  • Energy healing can help people process trauma and emotional pain.
  • Energy healing can be a form of self-care and stress relief.
  • Energy healing can be a way to connect with oneself and gain insight into one's experiences.
  • Energy healing is not a substitute for medical treatment, but can be used in conjunction with traditional medicine.
  • Energy healing is a personal experience and may not work for everyone.
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Reframing past experiences

  • Rachel Hollis talks about a therapy session where she was asked about a traumatic experience from her childhood.
  • She realized that moving away from her grandparents and the country was a traumatic experience for her.
  • The therapist asked her to imagine her current self with her six-year-old self and what she would need to show her to heal the pain.
  • This process helps to reframe past experiences and heal from them.
  • Our subconscious mind doesn't differentiate between what really happened and what we imagine, so this technique can be effective in healing past traumas.
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Energy healing

  • Rachel Hollis talks about the therapy session where she was asked to imagine her current self with her six-year-old self.
  • She started crying and said that she needed to go back to the country.
  • The therapist then did an energy healing session with her, which felt like six months of therapy in an hour.
  • This energy healing technique helps to release emotional blockages and heal past traumas.
  • The therapist doesn't touch the person, but it's more like a conversation where the person talks about what they want to heal.
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Intuition and cold reading

  • Rachel Hollis talks about how the therapist asked her an open-ended question and then helped her find a traumatic experience from her childhood.
  • She also talks about how she can do something similar with people, where she picks up on cues and reads the situation.
  • She defines intuition as situationally dependent and not a superpower.
  • She also talks about the basketball problem, where she doesn't know anything about basketball but can predict the outcome of a game based on the energy of the players.
  • She distinguishes between intuition and cold reading, where cold reading is more manipulative and intuition is more about picking up on energy and cues.
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Conclusion

  • Rachel Hollis shares her experience with reframing past traumas and how energy healing can be effective in releasing emotional blockages.
  • She also talks about intuition and how it's situationally dependent and not a superpower.
  • She distinguishes between intuition and cold reading and how intuition is more about picking up on energy and cues.
  • This interview provides insights into how to reframe past experiences and heal from emotional traumas.
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Importance of Training Intuition

  • Intuition is not a god-given thing, but it can be trained.
  • Intuition is specific to a given arena.
  • Intuition requires clocking in hours in something very specific.
  • Intuition is a combination of disposition, empathy, and self-awareness.
  • Intuition is chunking, which is the ability to take a whole board at once.
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The Power of the Subconscious Mind

  • The subconscious mind can process an inhuman amount of data very rapidly.
  • The subconscious mind can't talk to you in conscious language.
  • The language of the subconscious is emotion.
  • The subconscious is faster and vaster than the conscious mind.
  • The subconscious can process thin slices of information.
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Training Intuition in Another Category

  • Intuition can be trained in another category.
  • Intuition is pre-programmed, but it can be pulled out of the magical realm.
  • Verbal ability is a trainable intuition.
  • Some people have a bigger ability in certain things.
  • Advantages such as height and hand size can affect intuition.
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Minimum Requirements for Success

  • Some people do not meet minimum requirements for success.
  • The US Army defines minimum requirements as an 83 IQ or higher.
  • People below 83 IQ take up more energy than they can give.
  • It's a losing endeavor to try to work with people who don't meet minimum requirements.
  • Most people watching this do not fall below minimum requirements.
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Aligning Your Strengths

  • Humans have different strengths and weaknesses, like a stat sheet in a video game.
  • Aligning your passions with your strengths can be very powerful.
  • For Rachel Hollis, leveraging her ability to communicate was very advantageous in leadership and in front of a camera.
  • When you align your passions with your strengths, it can lead to success.
  • It's important to find what you're good at and what you love to do.
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The Addictive Nature of Technology

  • The book "Irresistible" and the documentary "The Social Dilemma" discuss how technology is built to addict us.
  • The inventors of social media are now grappling with the fact that they have created a monster.
  • Google and social media algorithms show us what we want to see, creating echo chambers and confirmation bias.
  • It's important to be aware of the addictive nature of technology and to limit our use of it.
  • The documentary "The Social Dilemma" is a must-watch, especially for parents.
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The Divisiveness of Society

  • Society has become incredibly divisive, with people attacking those who don't share their beliefs.
  • When Rachel Hollis was growing up, people of different beliefs could coexist and even be friends.
  • Now, people feel like they have to hate those who don't share their beliefs.
  • It's important to have civil discourse and to be able to coexist with people who have different beliefs.
  • We need to find common ground and work together to make the world a better place.
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Effects of Addiction and Reframing Mindset

  • The documentary 'The Social Dilemma' shows the worst of both the right wing and the liberals.
  • 'Irresistible' is a book that talks about addiction and specifically about technology.
  • The book lists the reasons why 'World of Warcraft' is the most addictive video game in the world.
  • According to the book, addiction can only become an addiction if it is helping you to numb something painful.
  • People can get addicted to good things, but it's going to become bad.
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Hacking Addiction and Making Yourself Crave

  • Defining addiction as something that you do even though it's destroying your life.
  • You can make yourself crave doing a thing you know you should be doing.
  • The way to make somebody thirsty is to put them on a desert island with people that are amazing at whatever their thing is.
  • As a social creature, a person will want the approval of that group to the point where they will immediately fall in line with what they are doing.
  • Reframing your mindset is important to overcome addiction and make yourself crave doing a thing you know you should be doing.
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The Power of Admiration and Social Media

  • People are driven by the desire for admiration from others.
  • Social media can be harmful because it creates a culture of comparison and competition for admiration.
  • It is hardwired in humans to seek admiration from others.
  • When people lash out at others, it is often because they are going through something difficult.
  • While it is important to cope with negative comments, it is still not a pleasant experience.
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The Importance of Speeding Up Your Life

  • Speeding up your life can lead to greater success and achievement.
  • People who walk faster tend to be more successful and file more patents.
  • There is something to be said for wanting more and going for it.
  • It is important to love the process and not feel the tyranny of having to do things quickly.
  • Skills stack when you get better at something, leading to greater success.
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The Benefits of Intensity and Joy for Life

  • Intense focus and joy for life can lead to greater success and achievement.
  • Pushing yourself to get better at something can be fun and rewarding.
  • Skills stack when you get better at something, leading to greater success.
  • Being around people you admire and want to impress can be motivating.
  • It is important to find joy in the process of getting better at something.
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The Dangers of Negative Influences

  • Negative influences can drag you down and prevent you from achieving your goals.
  • It is important to surround yourself with positive influences who will support and encourage you.
  • People who are successful tend to surround themselves with other successful people.
  • Being around people who are negative and celebrate negative behaviors can be harmful.
  • It is important to control the resources if you want to control the art.
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Building a Hardcore Culture

  • Working out and eating right can completely change your life.
  • At Impact Theory, there is a culture document that you have to acknowledge when you sign up to be a part of the company.
  • The company only wants the hardest core people ever.
  • You lose people in the process, but it's good because they opt themselves out of it.
  • Putting yourself into a community with people you admire can help you make a switch.
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Creating Characters and Worlds

  • Creating a character and world from nothing is more enjoyable than writing non-fiction.
  • Writing a script is like painting, creating something from absolutely nothing.
  • Characters are alive in your head, even if you've never written them down.
  • Books can be written in your head for a decade before being put on paper.
  • Values, beliefs, rules, habits, and identity are the elements that make up a person.
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Values vs Beliefs

  • A belief is something that you think you should do.
  • Beliefs are chosen because they are true.
  • There is only one belief that is patently false: you can do anything you set your mind to without limitation.
  • Number five is a lie, but it's an empowering lie.
  • People are more likely to believe something negative, but it's important to nudge them towards their goals.
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Importance of Competing

  • Don't worry about the upper limit of your potential.
  • Try and trust yourself to get better day after day.
  • Don't be afraid of competition, it's effective to try to beat others.
  • Be careful about what you tie your identity and self-esteem to.
  • Value your willingness to compete, not your ability to win every time.
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Choosing Your Values

  • Value something that you think is good for you.
  • Competition can be a good value to choose.
  • Be careful where you line up your identity, self-esteem, and value as a human being.
  • Choose to value your willingness to compete, not your ability to win every time.
  • Choosing to value something can be effective in moving forward in life.
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Goals and Pursuits

  • Have a goal and focus on what will move you towards it.
  • Value the sincere pursuit of your goal, not just achieving it.
  • Want more subscribers, likes, episodes, projects, and revenue.
  • Don't value yourself for actually achieving, but for the sincere pursuit.
  • Be careful where you line up your identity, self-esteem, and value as a human being.
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Accepting Mortality

  • It's useful to understand that you're going to die.
  • Accepting mortality can be more powerful than thinking you can live forever.
  • Thinking you can live forever can make you do long-range planning.
  • Accepting mortality can be useful in exciting you.
  • It's important to check which mindset is more powerful for you.
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Reflection on Death

  • Living in the pandemic made Rachel Hollis think about death.
  • Death has always been a part of her life.
  • Asking oneself what if this is the last day is useful.
  • She asks herself if she is proud of who she is as a person.
  • She is proud of being a good friend and having wonderful kids.
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Creating a Different Family

  • Rachel Hollis is proud of creating a different family from her family of origin.
  • She had the anti-hero in both her parents.
  • She believes her parents did the best they could with what they had.
  • She tried not to tell their part of the story in her book.
  • She challenges parents who are failing their children.
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Talking About Siblings and Parents

  • Rachel Hollis talks about her brothers and parents in her book.
  • She is worried about her mom reading the book.
  • She hasn't had a conversation with her mom about it.
  • She doesn't want to write about stuff gratuitously.
  • She challenges parents who are drowning inside their own pain.
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Childhood Trauma and Parenting

  • Rachel's older brother committed suicide when she was 14.
  • She has never had a conversation with her parents about what she saw.
  • She found her journals and diaries from when she was a little girl and wrote about her parents screaming.
  • She asks herself the question, "If today was your last day, are you proud?"
  • She values making sure her kids know they are loved and safe.
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Value of Sincere Pursuit

  • Rachel values sincere pursuit over money.
  • She gave up the pursuit of money early on.
  • She is proud of going after big dreams and trying to improve.
  • She is proud of pushing herself to be better.
  • She is proud of being true to the values she holds.
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Handling Wealth and Success

  • On the day Rachel became wealthy, she went to work like normal.
  • She didn't let the money change her values.
  • She is proud of the way she handled becoming wealthy.
  • She is proud of the little moments where she stayed true to her values.
  • She is proud of the way she handled her divorce and made sure her kids were okay.
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Mindset and Reframing

  • Rachel talks about reframing her mindset during the tough times of the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • She talks about the importance of taking care of yourself and your mental health.
  • She talks about the power of gratitude and focusing on the good things in your life.
  • She talks about the importance of having a growth mindset and being willing to learn and improve.
  • She talks about the importance of taking action and not just waiting for things to happen.
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Being True to Yourself

  • Rachel Hollis speaks about her decision to get divorced and how it was the most authentic thing she has ever done.
  • She believes in speaking the truth and being true to oneself, even if it means upsetting people or affecting one's business.
  • She talks about how she could have made more money by writing sequels to her successful book, but chose not to because it wouldn't be true to herself.
  • Rachel Hollis believes in living a life that is true to oneself and not just doing things for short-term gain or financial success.
  • She talks about how she has spent her entire career speaking truth and taking ownership of one's life.
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Enneagram Personality Types

  • Rachel Hollis talks about the Enneagram personality types and how it has been around since ancient Greece.
  • She explains that it is a series of numbers that represent different personality types from one through nine.
  • She reveals that she is a three, which is an achiever, and talks about how everyone has a wing, which is either the number before or after their Enneagram number.
  • Rachel Hollis explains that a four is an individualist who cares more about being themselves than being accepted for who they are.
  • She believes that individualists are the artists and people who have pink hair when it matters deeply that they are allowed to be who they are.
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Living Through Tough Times

  • Rachel Hollis talks about her book on dealing with trauma and how she reframed her mindset during the tough times of the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • She believes that it is important to focus on the things that one can control and not worry about the things that are out of one's control.
  • Rachel Hollis talks about how she had to pivot her business during the pandemic and how it was a tough decision, but it was necessary for her to survive.
  • She believes that it is important to have a support system and to reach out to others during tough times.
  • Rachel Hollis talks about how she reframed her mindset during the pandemic and how it helped her to focus on the positive things in her life.
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Valuing Yourself

  • Rachel Hollis talks about the importance of valuing oneself and not seeking validation from others.
  • She believes that it is important to focus on one's own worth and not let others define it for them.
  • Rachel Hollis talks about how she struggled with valuing herself in the past and how she had to work on it.
  • She believes that it is important to surround oneself with people who value and support them.
  • Rachel Hollis talks about how she wrote a chapter in her book about valuing oneself and how it is important to wake up and realize one's worth.
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Personality Types

  • Rachel Hollis identifies as a three-four personality type.
  • She feels her four very strongly.
  • She is not immediately identified as a helper, but her driving motivation is to help others.
  • She needs to feel like she matters, has purpose, and is helping others, but doesn't need it to be up close.
  • Twos need acknowledgment for helping, but it doesn't matter to Rachel.
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Rebellion and Problem with Authority

  • Rachel Hollis has always had a problem with authority.
  • She didn't like that she couldn't have the things she wanted as a kid.
  • She rebelled against authority figures.
  • She wanted to get rich to prove something.
  • She thinks about puzzles and believes they are solvable.
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The Stress of 2020

  • 2020 has felt like a puzzle with 5,000 pieces and all black.
  • There has been so much stress this year that Rachel Hollis is just watching it go by.
  • She is separated from the stress, but still experiences it.
  • She uses adaptogens to help manage stress and anxiety.
  • Adaptogens help to not go quite as high or low with stress and anxiety.
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Adaptogens

  • Adaptogens are supplements that help manage stress and anxiety.
  • They don't eliminate stress or anxiety, but help to not go quite as high or low.
  • They can be found over the counter at a grocery store.
  • Rachel Hollis's favorite adaptogen is holy basil leaf.
  • She takes a holy basil leaf pill every night and sometimes in the morning during hard seasons.
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Meditation and its Benefits

  • Meditation is a biological experience that has physiological hooks that move you from parasympathetic to sympathetic and back.
  • Once you learn how to diaphragm breathe and do it over a long enough period of time, it will bring background radiation to zero.
  • Prayer is probably closer to what he calls thinkitation, where you're in a thoughtful contemplative space and trying to connect with something.
  • When you're meditating, you're just focusing on the breath, and your mind is clear. If your mind wanders, you gently bring it back to the breath without judgment.
  • Consistent meditation can't help but make you calm because the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system are a seesaw.
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Dealing with Overwhelm

  • She has a rule in her life that she doesn't tolerate overwhelm.
  • Ironically, by telling yourself that you don't tolerate it, you actually pattern interrupt, and that sense of escalation immediately stops.
  • When she finds herself ratcheting up and the stress is crazy, she meditates, and if she's consistent, she can't help but become calm.
  • Physiologically, doing things that calm you, slow your heart rate, breathing, and mind, will make you calm.
  • The parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system are a seesaw, and you can't be both elevated and calm at the same time.
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Setting Boundaries

  • She made a rule that she refuses to hold anxiety for someone else ever again.
  • She realized that she is still affected by someone else's anxiety, and she has worked hard on anxiety in herself.
  • She had this happen recently, where someone brought her up to this heightened crazy state, and she realized that she needs to set boundaries.
  • She needs to be able to say, "I can't hold that for you, but I can help you find a solution."
  • It's important to recognize that you can't fix everything for everyone, and it's okay to set boundaries.
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Conclusion

  • Meditation is a powerful tool to calm your mind and body.
  • Setting boundaries and not tolerating overwhelm can help you manage stress and anxiety.
  • It's important to recognize that you can't fix everything for everyone, and it's okay to set boundaries.
  • By taking care of yourself, you can better take care of others.
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Setting Rules

  • People underutilize rules.
  • At some point, it comes down to doing it or not.
  • One of Rachel's most important rules is getting out of bed in 10 minutes or less.
  • Efficiency has become important to her, and she mourns the loss of time.
  • She confesses to Lisa if she doesn't get out of bed in less than 10 minutes.
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Female Entrepreneurs

  • Rachel wonders why female entrepreneurs who have achieved incredible success don't talk about it.
  • In 2019, being an entrepreneur was the sexiest thing in the world.
  • Women like Oprah and Sarah Blakely should talk about their success.
  • Rachel decided to talk about her success and how many books she's sold.
  • People criticize Rachel for talking about her success, but it's okay when guys do it.
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Dealing with Anxiety

  • Rachel used to hold anxiety for others.
  • She realized it was a choice and made a conscious decision not to do it anymore.
  • People should make rules for themselves to deal with anxiety.
  • Blocking and tackling is pretty basic, but people are afraid to use the dark side.
  • Entrepreneurs should understand how hardcore Rachel is.
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Making a Line in the Sand

  • At some point, people have to make a line in the sand and either cross it or not.
  • People should build up to making a line in the sand.
  • Rachel's rule of getting out of bed in 10 minutes or less was important to her.
  • She had to put a rule in her life to get out of bed in 10 minutes or less.
  • Efficiency has become important to Rachel, and she mourns the loss of time.
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Women and Success

  • Women claiming success in business is not common.
  • Men may not be turned on by women's success.
  • Women are taught to compete with each other from a young age.
  • Women who step outside of the norm are ostracized.
  • Women who have success outside of the norm become targets.
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Being a Hardcore Boss

  • People build success by being hardcore and pushing through obstacles.
  • Being a hardcore boss means being held accountable in a way you did not know you could be held accountable.
  • People who tell you to calm down only make you want to push harder.
  • Progress comes to the unreasonable man who bends the world to his will.
  • Being a hardcore boss means being both vulnerable and savage.
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Challenging Norms

  • Success challenges where people are.
  • People identify with others who are similar to them.
  • Stepping outside of what is considered normal can be uncomfortable for others.
  • There is room enough for all of us to be who we are.
  • People need to challenge norms to make progress.
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Competition Among Women

  • Women are taught to compete with each other from a young age.
  • Women who step outside of the norm are ostracized.
  • Women who have success outside of the norm become targets.
  • There is room enough for all of us to be who we are.
  • Women need to support each other instead of competing.
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Importance of Pursuing Goals

  • The pursuit of a goal is where the magic happens and where you become who you're meant to be.
  • Many people are stuck and don't know how to move forward, but aiming at anything will give you some direction to head in.
  • It doesn't matter what the goal is, as long as you have one.
  • Having a goal is important because it gives you something to work towards and helps you become the best version of yourself.
  • Even if all your go-getting inspires someone to be the greatest ping-pong player or the greatest mom of all time, it's still inspiring.
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Building a Successful Company

  • Rachel Hollis built a successful company that has been thriving even during the pandemic.
  • She believes that celebrities like The Rock, Oprah, and Reese Witherspoon were able to build successful companies because they had already earned people's attention through their celebrity status.
  • She built the infrastructure of her company first and is now pursuing more traditional entertainment ventures.
  • She plans to continue running her successful company while pursuing other ventures.
  • Having a successful company allows her to have the freedom to pursue other passions.
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