Mel Robbins ON: If You STRUGGLE With Stress & Anxiety, This Will CHANGE Your Life! | Jay Shetty

Last updated: Jun 1, 2023

The video is an interview with Mel Robbins, a bestselling author and motivational speaker, discussing her new podcast and her struggles with happiness.

The video is an interview with Mel Robbins, a bestselling author and host of a popular health and wellness podcast. She discusses her personal struggles with stress and anxiety and shares tips for managing these issues. She also talks about her new podcast and her work in producing life-changing content. The interviewer, Jay Shetty, asks her about the hardest thing she is currently working on, and she responds that it is happiness. She shares her thoughts on what happiness means and how she is working to achieve it in her own life.

  • Mel Robbins is a bestselling author and motivational speaker.
  • She hosts the number one Health and Wellness podcast on purpose with Jay Shetty.
  • Mel is one of the most trusted experts in the world on confidence and motivation.
  • Mel's work has been translated into 41 languages and has changed the lives of millions of people worldwide.
  • Mel and Jay Shetty are dear friends who first met four years ago while speaking at an event.
  • Mel is currently struggling with happiness and is doing a lot of work on her nervous system and body to anchor herself in the present moment.
  • Mel emphasizes the importance of catching negative thoughts, reframing things in a more positive way, and working on happiness like a muscle.
  • Mel talks about the importance of encouraging growth in others and learning from mistakes.
  • Understanding what happiness means to you personally is key to achieving it.

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Mel Robbins' Introduction

  • Mel Robbins is a bestselling author and motivational speaker.
  • She hosts the number one Health and Wellness podcast on purpose with Jay Shetty.
  • Mel Robbins is one of the most trusted experts in the world on confidence and motivation.
  • She is a New York Times best-selling author and self-publishing Phenom.
  • Mel's work has been translated into 41 languages and has changed the lives of millions of people worldwide.
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Mel Robbins' Friendship with Jay Shetty

  • Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty are dear friends.
  • They first met four years ago while speaking at an event.
  • Mel had a crush on Jay after watching his content on social media.
  • Jay is decades younger than Mel and very creative.
  • Mel considers Jay her own personal monk.
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Mel Robbins' Struggles

  • Mel Robbins learned about things the hard way.
  • She is currently struggling with happiness.
  • Mel's daughter goes to school for music.
  • She is a senior and spent the night at a friend's house.
  • Mel is struggling with the fact that her daughter is growing up and leaving the nest.
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Mel Robbins' New Podcast

  • Mel Robbins has a new podcast out.
  • It is called The Mel Robbins Show.
  • The podcast is already crushing it and is going to be absolutely huge.
  • Mel's female lead Media Company produces provocative life-changing content.
  • The podcast is sought after by the world's leading Brands and medical professionals for her research-backed tools and motivation.
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Mel's Struggle with Happiness

  • Mel talks about her experience with her 22-year-old daughter visiting her and how it made her emotional.
  • She reflects on how she tends to focus on the negative aspects of situations instead of the positive.
  • Mel admits that she has spent most of her life being busy as a way to outrun her unhappiness.
  • She talks about how the pandemic forced her to slow down and confront her unhappiness.
  • Mel's number one goal is to learn how to be happy and content wherever she is.
  • She shares how she is doing a lot of work on her nervous system and body to anchor herself in the present moment.
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Catching Negative Thoughts

  • Mel shares how she caught herself going into a negative thought spiral when she was missing her daughter.
  • She talks about how part of being content and happy is allowing emotions to rise up and noticing that there's a different way to feel.
  • Mel emphasizes the importance of reframing things in a more positive way.
  • She admits that even though she is a positive and optimistic person, her mind tends to run a million miles an hour and is never content where she is.
  • Mel has been doing a lot of work on her nervous system and body to anchor herself in the present moment.
  • She talks about how she is trying to slow down and be physically where she is, where her feet are.
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Working on Happiness

  • Mel emphasizes that happiness is something that needs to be worked on like a muscle.
  • She talks about how she is doing a lot of work on her nervous system and body to anchor herself in the present moment.
  • Mel shares how she is trying to be more content and happy wherever she is instead of trying to fix things.
  • She talks about how she is reframing things in a more positive way.
  • Mel admits that she is terrible at doing her hair but is learning to accept herself as she is.
  • She emphasizes the importance of being okay with things and allowing emotions to rise up.
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Encouraging Growth in Others

  • Mel talks about how one of the hardest things to do in life is to encourage someone you love to leave and grow.
  • She shares how she encouraged her daughter to pursue her passion and dream of being a singer-songwriter.
  • Mel reflects on how deeply she misses her daughter but also how much she loves her.
  • She emphasizes the importance of noticing when you're going into a negative thought spiral and reframing things in a more positive way.
  • Mel talks about how she is doing a lot of work on her nervous system and body to anchor herself in the present moment.
  • She shares how she is trying to be more content and happy wherever she is instead of trying to fix things.
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Learning from Mistakes

  • Mel Robbins burned her ear while curling her hair and learned a lesson from it.
  • Kendall's response to Mel's mistake taught her that mistakes are opportunities to learn.
  • Learning from mistakes helps us avoid making the same mistake again.
  • When feeling discontent or stressed, take a step back and learn from the situation.
  • Lessons learned from mistakes can lead to happiness and contentment.
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Appreciating Time with Loved Ones

  • Jay Shetty's family reminds him of the limited time he has with them when he visits.
  • His family's mindset of counting down the days can lead to missing out on creating new memories.
  • Jay encourages his family to celebrate the time they have together and create new experiences.
  • Having conversations with loved ones about appreciating time together can lead to greater happiness.
  • Appreciating time with loved ones can lead to creating new memories and experiences.
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Believing in Deserving Happiness

  • Many people don't believe they deserve happiness or think mediocrity is safer.
  • Mediocrity is not a fulfilling goal to strive for.
  • Believing in deserving happiness can lead to greater fulfillment and satisfaction in life.
  • It's important to understand what happiness means to you personally.
  • Positive self-talk and beliefs can lead to greater happiness and contentment.
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Understanding Happiness

  • Mel Robbins didn't understand what happiness truly meant until later in life.
  • She associated happiness with parties and laughter, but it's more complex than that.
  • Positive self-talk and beliefs are important for happiness, but it's also about finding purpose and meaning in life.
  • Understanding what happiness means to you personally is key to achieving it.
  • Happiness is not a constant state, but rather a journey with ups and downs.
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Mel Robbins' Struggles with Anxiety

  • Mel Robbins struggled with anxiety and negativity for a long time.
  • She fixed her marriage, finances, and built a business, but the anxiety remained.
  • She turned the negativity towards herself and started hammering herself in crazy ways.
  • She had a breakthrough moment while sitting on her covered deck in Vermont.
  • She realized that she didn't feel the anxiety and stress that she usually felt.
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Realization and Reflection

  • Mel Robbins realized that she needs both deep spiritual quiet time and the busyness of Los Angeles or Boston in small sprints.
  • She loves the game of building a business and pushing herself.
  • She needs to stay in a space that's happy.
  • Life is not binary, and we don't have to make choices early in life.
  • Many people struggle with the idea of having to choose between being a hustler or being peaceful, a winner or a loser, wisdom and Zen or money and materialistic.
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Chronic Stress and Anxiety

  • Chronic stress and anxiety can be created by frenetic busyness.
  • Mel Robbins doesn't want to go back to that sort of lifestyle.
  • She wants to stay in a space that's happy.
  • She needs to find a balance between deep spiritual quiet time and the busyness of Los Angeles or Boston in small sprints.
  • She needs to accept herself and her needs.
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Profound Experience

  • Mel Robbins had a profound experience while sitting on her covered deck in Vermont.
  • She realized that she didn't feel the anxiety and stress that she usually felt.
  • She was able to be right there without the anxiety and stress.
  • She realized that this is what happiness is.
  • She doesn't want to go back to the default of a revved-up nervous system, an anxious mind, or a to-do list that was a mile long.
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The Pain of Settling

  • We settle for the pain of where we are because of the pain that comes with going after what we want.
  • We think we have to choose between living the life of our dreams or being stuck forever.
  • Many people settle for where they are because their dream seems too far away.
  • Mel Robbins shares her experience of feeling stuck in a safe corporate job.
  • She realized she didn't want to be in that position in her 50s, even if she got paid as much as the people who had been there for decades.
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The Flame Inside You

  • We all have a flame inside us that is burning, even when we are stuck or suffering.
  • Engaging in a campaign of misery creates a cancer inside of us that eats at us.
  • By actively convincing ourselves not to do anything, we are engaging in an active campaign of misery.
  • The only cure for this is to stop listening to that campaign and start taking small steps toward what we want.
  • Mel Robbins shares how she encourages her daughter to pursue her dream of being a singer-songwriter.
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The Work

  • The work is simply writing crappy songs every day.
  • Not listening to the campaign of misery is also part of the work.
  • When we listen to the campaign in our head, it causes pain because we can feel when we are giving up on our own dreams.
  • Small steps every day are the key to making progress toward our dreams.
  • It's important to remember that success is not a straight line, and setbacks are a natural part of the process.
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The Power of Action

  • When we take action, we start to build momentum and gain confidence.
  • It's important to celebrate small wins along the way.
  • When we take action, we start to see opportunities that we wouldn't have seen otherwise.
  • It's important to remember that we are capable of more than we think.
  • By taking action, we can change our lives and inspire others to do the same.
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The Two Mindsets: Criticizing or Creating

  • Many people spend their time criticizing others instead of creating and learning.
  • Today's culture propagates this mindset through social media.
  • It's important to focus on creating and learning instead of criticizing.
  • When on social media, look at those doing better than you and learn from them.
  • There are only two mindsets: criticizing or creating.
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Get on the Court: Stop Arguing Against Your Potential

  • Visualize yourself either in the stands or on the court.
  • Being in the stands is an active thing that destroys your confidence and happiness.
  • Imposter syndrome amplifies self-doubt and should be avoided.
  • Instead of faking it, try until you make it.
  • The pain of sitting in the stands is greater than the pain of tripping on the court.
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Stop Telling Yourself It's Too Late

  • Many successful people were once the president of their own campaign of misery.
  • It's important to stop telling yourself that things will never happen for you.
  • Get back on the court and try until you make it.
  • Stop telling yourself it's too late to pursue your dreams.
  • Don't compare yourself to others and focus on your own journey.
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Overcoming Fear and Anxiety

  • Fear and anxiety are normal emotions that everyone experiences.
  • It's important to acknowledge and accept these emotions.
  • Use the five-second rule to take action and overcome fear.
  • Focus on the present moment and take small steps towards your goals.
  • Don't let fear and anxiety hold you back from pursuing your dreams.
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Mel Robbins' Campaign of Misery

  • Mel Robbins struggled with a campaign of misery for six years.
  • She believed that she was only successful because of her partnership with Audible.
  • She told herself that she didn't have time to try new things and that nobody would come to Boston to work with her.
  • Campaigns of misery do not mute the heartache and the pull that you have because your dreams are meant for you.
  • Drinking, numbing out, or avoiding the thing that is inside you does not make the dream go away; it just creates more pain.
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Mel Robbins' Journey to Change

  • Mel Robbins realized that she needed to take her own advice and make some major changes in her life.
  • She knew that she needed to complete all her speaking engagements and create different boundaries to step into the podcast phase.
  • Mel Robbins got her start in 2007 hosting a local radio show and wanted to get back to radio for almost 12 years.
  • She loves the intimacy of radio and believes that it is the best way to share her life in real-time.
  • Mel Robbins got serious about the fact that she was really in the stands in her life complaining to herself and not taking action.
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Mel Robbins' Struggle with Loneliness

  • Mel Robbins has been profoundly lonely for a while now.
  • By lonely, she means that she has people around her, but she struggles with adult friendship.
  • She believes that a lot of women feel this way, particularly when their kids get older and the social dynamics change.
  • Mel Robbins started to get serious about the fact that she was really in the stands in her life complaining to herself that she didn't see her friends and that she was really lonely.
  • She realized that it's easy to start making friends if you send texts every day to people and make plans.
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Jay Shetty's Campaign of Misery

  • Jay Shetty's campaign of misery is that he grew up loving public speaking and drama, but he stopped doing drama.
  • He loves the idea of getting into someone else's emotions and learning about new characters.
  • Jay Shetty got an opportunity to act in the Bad Boys movie trailer, but he felt uncomfortable because he hadn't done it for so long.
  • He had to freestyle his lines on the day of the shoot, which made him feel impossible.
  • Jay Shetty believes that it's important to take action and get on the court to overcome your campaign of misery.
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Exploring Creative Expression

  • Mel Robbins loves the idea of getting to be in a true story or biographies.
  • She has never publicly talked about her desire to experiment with drama or acting.
  • Her dream is to creatively express herself and see if it brings her joy, happiness, and meaning in life.
  • She believes that dreams are not meant to be achieved but are directional signals towards a different chapter of life.
  • She thinks that people should try to walk towards their dreams and experiment with them to see if they bring them joy and meaning.
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Dreams vs. Delusions

  • Mel Robbins thinks that confidence is the willingness to try and belief in oneself, while arrogance is thinking that one is better than others.
  • She believes that delusion comes from insecurity and wanting to be better than others.
  • She thinks that dreams are never delusional because they are directional signals towards a different chapter of life.
  • She believes that people should not be afraid to take risks and try to achieve their dreams.
  • She thinks that people should not confuse dreams with grandiose aspirations that they are not prepared for.
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The Importance of Trying

  • Mel Robbins thinks that people should not be afraid to try new things and experiment with their dreams.
  • She believes that people should not be afraid of failure because it is a necessary part of the learning process.
  • She thinks that people should not let their fear of failure stop them from trying to achieve their dreams.
  • She believes that people should focus on the process of trying and experimenting rather than the end result.
  • She thinks that people should be willing to take risks and get on the court of life to achieve their dreams.
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The Power of Mindset

  • Mel Robbins believes that mindset is crucial in achieving one's dreams.
  • She thinks that people should have a growth mindset and be willing to learn and adapt.
  • She believes that people should not let their limiting beliefs and negative self-talk stop them from achieving their dreams.
  • She thinks that people should focus on their strengths and use them to achieve their dreams.
  • She believes that people should surround themselves with positive and supportive people who believe in their dreams.
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