Why You Need to Do Hard Things to Build Self-Respect | Humble the Poet on Conversations with Tom

Last updated: Jun 1, 2023

The video is about the importance of doing hard things to build self-respect, as discussed by Humble the Poet on Conversations with Tom.

The video is an interview with Humble the Poet on Conversations with Tom, where they discuss the importance of doing hard things to build self-respect. They also touch on Humble's background as the child of Punjabi immigrants in Toronto, his journey into teaching, and the idea that people get paid more when they can do what others can't. They also discuss the notion of complaining and the market determining the value of a job.

  • Humble the Poet's background and interest in teaching.
  • Teachers are often underpaid and have a difficult job.
  • Doing hard things builds self-respect and confidence.
  • Self-respect is crucial for personal growth and happiness.
  • The more value you bring to the world, the more resources you receive.
  • Impact Theory is a generational play.
  • African-American leadership has been essential in setting up a messaging and value system.
  • Humble the Poet's journey to discovering his artist within.
  • Humble the Poet's emulation of Bruce Wayne.

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Background of Humble the Poet

  • Humble the Poet's parents are from Punjab, India and immigrated to Toronto, Canada in the 70s.
  • His father had a master's degree in economics but had to work labor jobs in Toronto.
  • His mother worked at the Kellogg's Factory for two years before becoming a stay-at-home mom and delving into Sikh heritage and spirituality.
  • Humble the Poet's interest in teaching stemmed from his love for helping kids and his sister's recommendation to become a teacher.
  • He has a degree in information technology and taught coding and math before becoming an elementary school teacher.
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Teachers' Pay and the Difficulty of Their Job

  • Teachers are often underpaid and have a thankless job.
  • From an economic standpoint, teachers may not be paid as much as other professions because they are not solving problems that are as difficult.
  • People who can do what others can't, such as professional athletes, comedians, and brain surgeons, tend to get paid more.
  • Complaining about pay may not be productive and may not change the market's willingness to pay a certain amount.
  • Teaching is an incredibly difficult job, and it may not be for everyone.
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect and confidence.
  • Challenging oneself helps to develop skills and abilities.
  • People often avoid doing hard things because they fear failure or discomfort.
  • However, avoiding hard things can lead to stagnation and a lack of growth.
  • It's important to push oneself out of one's comfort zone to achieve personal growth.
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The Importance of Self-Respect

  • Self-respect is crucial for personal growth and happiness.
  • Having self-respect means valuing oneself and one's abilities.
  • Self-respect is built through doing hard things and challenging oneself.
  • People who lack self-respect may struggle with self-esteem and confidence.
  • Developing self-respect requires taking responsibility for one's actions and choices.
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect.
  • Challenging yourself helps you grow and learn.
  • It's important to turn inward and focus on what you can control.
  • Complaining and venting don't add value to your life.
  • Learning new skills and solving problems is a better use of your time.
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The Value of Bringing Value to the World

  • The more value you bring to the world, the more resources you receive.
  • Supply and demand play a role in how much people get paid.
  • People don't get to decide what the world deems valuable.
  • It's important to ask yourself what you can do to bring value to the world.
  • Changing the system may not be interesting to everyone.
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The Importance of Generational Impact

  • Impact Theory is a generational play.
  • It takes time to have a significant impact on the world.
  • Culture stacks, and we build upon each other's ideas and innovations.
  • People need someone to show them what's possible before they can innovate further.
  • Leadership is essential in setting up a messaging and value system.
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The Role of African-American Leadership in Art and Entrepreneurship

  • African-American leadership has been essential in setting up a messaging and value system.
  • South Asians are about 30 years behind African-Americans in terms of messaging and value system.
  • It's important to learn from African-American leadership and how they work together.
  • Jay-Z and other African-American leaders have set up trust funds and legal defense funds for those in need.
  • There is a history of African-American leadership in art and entrepreneurship.
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Discovering the Artist Within

  • Humble the Poet went to school and did the job his immigrant parents asked him to do.
  • He had an existential crisis and realized he wasn't fulfilled.
  • He started doing spoken word poetry and making music on YouTube for fun.
  • He took a second job tutoring kids and started making a good secondary income.
  • He went to a spoken-word concert and realized he could do it too.
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Rejecting the Starving Artist Mentality

  • Humble the Poet didn't want to be a starving artist.
  • He didn't want to work his way up on set as a PA.
  • He wanted to make a play to try to write and get something done.
  • He went to extraordinary lengths to retain control over his art.
  • He didn't follow the template and was too lazy to carry cables.
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Dealing with Shame and Self-Doubt

  • Despite his success, Humble the Poet had shame, self-doubt, and confusion.
  • He felt lost for almost two years.
  • He slept on an air mattress with a leak and didn't want to spend the money to replace it.
  • He had to share a room and his bed was half in a closet and half out.
  • He put clothes all over the place so he wouldn't wake up and feel the metal in his side.
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Emulating Bruce Wayne

  • Humble the Poet does a lot of things to try to emulate Bruce Wayne.
  • He thinks Bruce Wayne is badass for learning to read lips in Russian.
  • He doesn't sleep on the floor anymore, but he still takes cold showers.
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Self-worth and self-respect cannot be achieved by just telling yourself that you love yourself.
  • You have to earn self-worth by doing something that you value.
  • Doing something that you value but is hard will instantly give you a sense of self-worth.
  • Following through on something that you value but is hard will give you more fulfillment than chasing a passion.
  • Success and money cannot touch self-worth.
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Three Things to Do Every Day

  • Start every day with three things that you do not want to do.
  • Getting out of bed in ten minutes or less.
  • Working out, even if you do not enjoy it.
  • Taking a cold shower, which is the hardest thing to do.
  • Doing these things gives a sense of self-worth.
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Acclimating to Hard Things

  • Acclimating to hard things makes them easier to do.
  • It is hard to not eat sugar, but if you go months without eating sugar, you will acclimate to it.
  • Getting to the point where cold showers are your norm will give you a sense of accomplishment.
  • Doing hard things consistently will give you more fulfillment than chasing a passion.
  • Once you get used to doing hard things, they become less of a discipline and more of a habit.
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The Importance of Facing Fears

  • Open water terrifies Humble the Poet more than anything in the world.
  • He got invited to speak at an open water event and promised his team that he would do it.
  • Free diving is dangerous, and many people die doing it.
  • Watching the movie Open Water is his greatest nightmare.
  • Facing fears is important for personal growth.
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Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect.
  • People often avoid hard things because of fear of failure or discomfort.
  • Doing hard things helps to overcome fear and build resilience.
  • Challenging oneself leads to personal growth and development.
  • Hard work and perseverance are necessary for success.
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Cold Exposure and Brown Fat

  • Cold exposure can lead to the development of brown fat, which generates heat.
  • Brown fat has an increased metabolic rate.
  • Humans are more resilient than we realize.
  • Fear used to protect us from physical danger, but now it often holds us back from personal growth.
  • Breaking out of our comfort zones can lead to personal growth and development.
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The Dangers of Blind Trust

  • Blind trust can lead to betrayal and heartbreak.
  • It is important to do due diligence and ask questions before making decisions.
  • Personal responsibility is necessary for success.
  • Blaming others for our failures is counterproductive.
  • Shame and isolation can prevent us from seeking help and support.
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The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability

  • Honesty and vulnerability are necessary for personal growth and development.
  • Sharing our struggles and failures can help us connect with others and receive support.
  • Being vulnerable can be scary, but it is necessary for personal growth.
  • It is important to take responsibility for our mistakes and learn from them.
  • Personal growth requires self-reflection and a willingness to change.
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Realization of Needing to Change

  • The poet was not earning despite his growing public profile.
  • He was in debt to banks and friends.
  • He was avoiding phone calls and lying in bed, hoping for someone to save him.
  • He realized that he needed to figure something out because the check wasn't coming.
  • He was harsh on himself and decided to take action.
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Getting to Work

  • The poet pasted all his goals on his wall and got to work.
  • He decided to cut his expenses instead of focusing on making money.
  • He sold everything he could and moved back home with his parents.
  • He faced his fears and admitted to people that he was not doing well.
  • He took ownership of his problems and realized that power only exists when you take responsibility.
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Overcoming Self-Pity

  • The poet realized that self-pity is a great way to feel connected but it doesn't solve anything.
  • He called everyone he owed money to and promised to pay them back.
  • He clawed and scraped himself out of debt by applying for grants and gigs.
  • He made $1,000 a show but all the money went to paying off his debts.
  • He didn't want to be the guy who avoids his problems and took responsibility for his actions.
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect.
  • It's important to take ownership of your problems and not blame others.
  • Power only exists when you take responsibility.
  • Adjusting your expectations, attitude, or effort is better than feeling like a victim.
  • Self-pity doesn't solve anything and it's important to face your fears and take action.
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Overcoming Debt and Learning Minimalism

  • Paid off all debts, including bank loans and personal debts to friends and family.
  • Reached zero bank account balance by the end of 2014.
  • Learned to be a minimalist and did not adjust lifestyle even when money started coming in.
  • Grateful for the experience of getting out of debt and the principles learned from it.
  • Every year since then has been going better and better.
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Taking Risks and Living Authentically

  • Left a teaching job to work with successful partners who taught him how to do business and get control of his own life.
  • Did not see it as a risk and believed he could always go back to teaching.
  • There are moments of fear and doubt, but he chooses to live authentically and take risks.
  • Believes in being afraid of not taking a risk and never developing one's potential.
  • There will always be times when one has to realign their life and bring themselves back.
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Building Self-Respect through Hard Work

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect and confidence.
  • People often avoid hard things because they are uncomfortable and require effort.
  • Hard work is necessary for growth and development.
  • Success is not just about achieving goals, but also about the journey and the hard work put in.
  • Hard work is a way to show respect for oneself and one's potential.
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Embracing Failure and Learning from Mistakes

  • Failure is a necessary part of growth and development.
  • People often fear failure and avoid taking risks because of it.
  • Failure is an opportunity to learn and improve.
  • Learning from mistakes is important for personal growth and development.
  • Embracing failure and learning from mistakes is a way to build resilience and confidence.
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The Importance of Doing Hard Things

  • Doing hard things helps build self-respect.
  • It allows you to get into a flow state and feel alive.
  • Most people don't allow themselves to get to that point because it's hard and scary.
  • You have to face your insecurities and the fact that you might suck at it.
  • It's interesting to see who is willing to try and push through the difficulty.
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The Competitive Nature of Hip-Hop

  • Hip-hop is not a welcoming culture, it's competitive.
  • It's all about standing your ground and challenging others to push you off your pedestal.
  • Rap battles are a part of the culture.
  • Other artists may reach out for favors, and if you don't give them what they want, they may attack you.
  • Some people thrive off of this level of competition.
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The Journey of Humble the Poet

  • Humble the Poet is the ambassador for South Asian hip-hop.
  • He started out with rap battles and won a big tournament.
  • He became a multi-discipline artist and had to learn how to do everything himself.
  • Personal responsibility and taking ownership were important lessons he learned.
  • He started writing on Facebook and posting about love and inspiration.
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The Importance of Personal Responsibility

  • Personal responsibility is important for success.
  • You have to take ownership of your work and not wait for others.
  • Find something you can do by yourself and work on it.
  • Don't be afraid to try and push through the difficulty.
  • It's important to realize that you are telling your own story, not someone else's.
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Challenges and Writing a Book

  • Humble the Poet started writing every day, using pictures as prompts.
  • He was challenged to write in prose instead of rhyme.
  • He built a fan base of 50,000-60,000 people on Facebook.
  • His fans encouraged him to write a book.
  • He crowdfunded his book on Indiegogo, raising $26,000.
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Self-Publishing and Overcoming Fear

  • Humble the Poet used Amazon CreateSpace to self-publish his book.
  • He learned how to use Adobe InDesign to design his book.
  • He was inspired by Amanda Palmer's story of crowdfunding her music.
  • He overcame his fear of asking for help by crowdfunding his book.
  • He raised $26,000 by offering rewards for different levels of contribution.
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Selling and Promoting the Book

  • Humble the Poet sold his book at his shows for 20 pounds each.
  • He learned the business of selling and promoting his book.
  • He threw his own shows and crowdfunded them on Indiegogo.
  • He found creative ways to earn more money, such as making deals with venues.
  • He covered the basic costs of the venue and travel, and took the ticket money.
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Lessons Learned

  • Humble the Poet learned the importance of doing hard things to build self-respect.
  • He learned to overcome his fear of asking for help.
  • He learned the business of self-publishing and promoting his book.
  • He learned to find creative ways to earn money and pursue his passions.
  • He learned the value of building a fan base and connecting with his audience.
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Doing Hard Things Builds Self-Respect

  • Doing hard things builds self-respect because it shows that you are capable of overcoming challenges.
  • People who only do easy things don't have self-respect because they haven't proven anything to themselves.
  • Self-respect is important because it affects how you treat yourself and how others treat you.
  • Self-respect is built by doing things that are difficult, uncomfortable, or scary.
  • Self-respect is not built by doing things that are easy or by taking shortcuts.
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Creating Opportunities for Yourself

  • Creating opportunities for yourself is important because waiting for someone else to give you an opportunity is not a reliable strategy.
  • Creating opportunities for yourself requires taking risks and being willing to fail.
  • Creating opportunities for yourself requires being proactive and not waiting for things to happen.
  • Creating opportunities for yourself requires being resourceful and finding ways to make things happen.
  • Creating opportunities for yourself requires being persistent and not giving up when things get difficult.
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