If You Want To LOVE YOURSELF To The Core, WATCH THIS! | Byron Katie & Jay Shetty

Last updated: May 31, 2023

The video is about Byron Katie and Jay Shetty discussing how suffering is created by our thoughts and how questioning those thoughts can lead to a happier life.

The video features a conversation between Byron Katie and Jay Shetty about self-love and overcoming suffering. Katie shares her experience of being depressed and agoraphobic for over a decade, and how she was able to overcome it by realizing that her thoughts were the cause of her suffering. She developed a new way of thinking and created "the work" to help others overcome their own suffering. The conversation also touches on the importance of questioning our thoughts and beliefs, and the impact they have on our mental health.

  • All suffering is created by our thoughts.
  • An unquestioned life is not worth living.
  • Questioning our thoughts can lead to a happier life.
  • Byron Katie was depressed for over a decade.
  • The Work is a process of questioning our thoughts to find out if they are true.
  • The thoughts that cause suffering come from ourselves.
  • Being present means being aware of the blessed life right here, right now.
  • Once we know our own true nature, we see it in everyone and everything.
  • Getting in touch with emotions is the first step towards realizing the cause of suffering.

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Introduction

  • All suffering is created by our thoughts.
  • An unquestioned life is not worth living.
  • Questioning our thoughts can lead to a happier life.
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Byron Katie's Experience

  • Byron Katie was depressed for over a decade.
  • She was suicidal and agoraphobic.
  • She had low self-esteem and self-loathing.
  • She slept on the floor because she didn't believe she deserved a bed.
  • She realized that when she didn't believe her thoughts, she didn't suffer.
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The Work

  • The Work was born when Byron Katie realized that her thoughts were the cause of her suffering.
  • She saw that when she believed her thoughts, she suffered.
  • When she didn't believe her thoughts, she didn't suffer.
  • The Work is a process of questioning our thoughts to find out if they are true.
  • The Work helps us to see things as they really are, without the filter of our thoughts.
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The Cause of Suffering

  • The thoughts that cause suffering come from ourselves.
  • They are thoughts like "something terrible is going to happen" and "there's something wrong with me".
  • Believing these thoughts leads to depression, guilt, and insanity.
  • Questioning these thoughts can make them evaporate.
  • Byron Katie's experience with The Work has helped people all over the world.
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Questioning Our Thoughts

  • Suffering is created by our thoughts.
  • Questioning our thoughts can lead to a happier life.
  • Asking if a thought is true puts us in the experience of that thought.
  • Asking how we react when we believe the thought helps us become aware of our reactions.
  • Believing words onto an image creates an imagined life that keeps us in the past or future.
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Who Am I Without the Thought?

  • Asking who we are without a thought can dissolve the image of the past or future.
  • People are taking this practice on to see the guilt of the past and the horrors of the future.
  • They become awake to the love of life, not life imagined.
  • Being in the now is humbling and gifted.
  • Inquiry works with everything and is given freely.
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Being Present

  • Being present means being aware of the blessed life right here, right now.
  • Everything we need to do can be done in the present moment.
  • Being present helps us focus on what is important.
  • It helps us avoid being confused or convoluted.
  • There is something for everyone to help them be present.
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Seeing Our True Nature in Everyone and Everything

  • Once we know our own true nature, we see it in everyone and everything.
  • Questioning our thoughts helps us see our true nature more clearly.
  • Our true nature is love and it sparkles and shines.
  • It is humbling and gifted.
  • Seeing our true nature in everyone and everything is a beautiful experience.
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Importance of Genuine Inquiry

  • Genuine inquiry is different from rhetorical demands.
  • Asking genuine questions leads to a better understanding of oneself and the world.
  • Asking rhetorical demands does not lead to any answers or solutions.
  • Asking genuine questions leads to a better relationship with oneself and others.
  • Asking rhetorical demands leads to a negative relationship with oneself and others.
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Getting in Touch with Emotions

  • Getting in touch with emotions is the first step towards realizing the cause of suffering.
  • Emotions are the closest thing to oneself.
  • Identifying emotions helps in identifying the thoughts and beliefs that cause suffering.
  • Writing down thoughts and beliefs helps in questioning them.
  • Questioning thoughts and beliefs leads to a better understanding of oneself and the world.
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The Power of Writing Down Thoughts

  • Writing down thoughts helps in getting them out of one's head.
  • Writing down thoughts helps in identifying the thoughts and beliefs that cause suffering.
  • Writing down thoughts helps in questioning them.
  • Questioning thoughts and beliefs leads to a better understanding of oneself and the world.
  • Recording one's voice while reading out the written thoughts helps in understanding oneself better.
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The Negative Effects of Judgment

  • Judgment creates a divide between oneself and others.
  • Judgment leads to a negative relationship with oneself and others.
  • Judgment of judgment is more subtle but equally harmful.
  • Non-judgment leads to a better relationship with oneself and others.
  • Non-judgment leads to a better understanding of oneself and the world.
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The Cause of Suffering

  • Judging someone for their judgment creates separation between people.
  • The cause of all suffering is what we're thinking and believing.
  • Attachments are talked about in religions and are a cause of suffering.
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Questioning Our Thoughts

  • Identifying what we're thinking and believing is the cause of suffering.
  • Questioning our thoughts is a meditative process.
  • Asking "is it true?" begins to wake us up to reality.
  • Asking the question of ourselves is important.
  • The "don't know" world is unavailable to us when we are living as believers in negative thoughts.
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Beliefs That Create Suffering

  • Believing negative thoughts creates suffering.
  • Words become like matches for our true nature.
  • When we believe negative thoughts, we are talking to a phantom.
  • The work of questioning our thoughts wakes us up to reality.
  • Replacing negative thoughts with positive ones is not the solution.
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