Alex Hormozi: Why losing friends is normal...

Last updated: Jun 18, 2023

The video discusses the topic of losing friends as one progresses towards their goals and how it is a normal part of life.

This video by Alex Hormozi was published on May 13, 2022.
Video length: 12:00.

In this video, Alex Hormozi talks about the normalcy of losing friends as one progresses towards their goals and aspirations.

He shares his personal experience of losing friends from high school and college and discusses the importance of having friends who support and challenge you. He also talks about the concept of an exchange of value in relationships and how it affects the strength and depth of the relationship.

Hormozi emphasizes the need to focus on the future and present rather than dwelling on the past in friendships.

  • The statement "your network is your net worth" is not always true.
  • People like Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos spend time with people who are less wealthy than them.
  • Dean Graziosi lost his last childhood friend recently.
  • Dean Graziosi is willing to pay the price of fame to make the impact he wants to make.
  • As we move towards our goals, it becomes clear who our true friends are.
  • It is important to surround ourselves with people who support and encourage us.
  • Having a few good friends is more satisfying than having many acquaintances with short-term transactional relationships.
  • Losing friends during the process of growth is a sign of progress.
  • It's important to have friends who genuinely root for you.
  • Growth and change come with a price, including losing old relationships.

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The Cost of Success

  • The statement "your network is your net worth" is not always true.
  • Statements like this are spiritually correct but not necessarily backed by evidence.
  • People like Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos spend time with people who are less wealthy than them.
  • The cost of success can include losing friends.
  • Dean Graziosi lost his last childhood friend recently.
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The Price of Fame

  • Dean Graziosi is willing to pay the price of fame to make the impact he wants to make.
  • Some people root for you until you do better than them.
  • Real friends talk to your face and praise you behind your back.
  • People collect friends throughout their lives, but some are only seasonal.
  • As we move towards our goals, it becomes clear who our true friends are.
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Rules of Thumb for Relationships

  • If you can only talk about the past with someone, they are not a good friend.
  • If there is no growth in a friendship, it will decline over time.
  • There should be an exchange of value in a relationship.
  • The strength and depth of a relationship is determined by how long you are willing to wait for the exchange to occur.
  • Feeling guilty about losing friendships is normal, but carrying them on out of necessity is not healthy.
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Conclusion

  • Losing friends is a normal part of life, especially as we pursue our goals.
  • It is important to surround ourselves with people who support and encourage us.
  • Not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime.
  • It is okay to let go of friendships that no longer serve us.
  • Success often comes at a cost, but it is up to us to decide if it is worth it.
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The Importance of Selectivity in Relationships

  • Relationships are based on positive exchanges and intermittent reinforcement.
  • The longer you have positive exchanges with someone, the longer you are willing to wait for the next one.
  • It's important to be selective in pursuing relationships with people who have a similar mission or values.
  • Having space and being comfortable with being alone can help with selectivity.
  • Having a few good friends is more satisfying than having many acquaintances with short-term transactional relationships.
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The Natural Process of Losing Friends

  • Losing friends during the process of growth is a sign of progress.
  • People who have not grown or changed may not like the changes in their friends.
  • It's natural to not want to continue relationships with people who have grown or have values that are too far in contrast to our own.
  • Values can change over time, and it's okay to let go of relationships that no longer align with our values.
  • Old relationships may be sacrificed, but new ones will be created.
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The Importance of Having Friends Who Root for You

  • It's important to have friends who genuinely root for you.
  • Rooting for someone behind their back is rare, but it's a sign of true friendship.
  • Some people may not root for you because they feel bad about their own lack of progress.
  • Having friends who talk to your face is important for making life worth living.
  • It's important to be selective in pursuing friendships with people who root for you and have similar values.
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The Price of Growth

  • Growth and change come with a price, including losing old relationships.
  • It's important to ask ourselves if the price of growth is worth it.
  • For some, sacrificing old relationships for the sake of growth is worth it.
  • Creating room for new relationships is a natural part of the process of growth.
  • Being a non-constant person is a sign of growth and change.
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Losing Friends is Normal

  • Picking friends who are further ahead of you can help you strive to be better in certain ways.
  • Friendship is not just about financial success, it can be in marriage, physical fitness, or any other area.
  • Both parties can grow and learn from each other, creating an extended exchange towards both of your goals.
  • Friendship definitions and views can change over time and continue to develop and refine.
  • It's okay to feel alone and have a vacuum at the end of a season, but someone will step in to fill it.
  • Having a higher standard and waiting for better friends who actually root for you is worth it, rather than settling for false friends who talk down on you.

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