Alex Hormozi: Why I chose to disappoint my dad

Last updated: Jun 18, 2023

The video is about Alex Hormozi's decision to disappoint his father and choose his own path in life, and how he uses a decision-making algorithm based on mortality to make important choices.

This video by Alex Hormozi was published on Jun 23, 2022.
Video length: 14:08.

In this video, Alex Hormozi talks about how he chose to disappoint his father in order to live a life that was true to himself.

He discusses the importance of investing in one's own name and how he struggled with the pressure to live up to his father's expectations. Hormozi also shares his decision-making algorithm, which involves considering mortality and the long-term impact of one's actions.

He touches on the idea of legacy and how it may be less important to him personally, but acknowledges that it is a significant factor for many people.

  • Alex's father taught him to invest in his name because it stays with him.
  • Alex worked as a management consultant and did space cyber intelligence for the military.
  • He realized that he was living a life that his father wanted him to live.
  • He struggled with disappointing his father but eventually decided to choose his own path.
  • Alex uses a decision-making algorithm based on mortality to make important choices.
  • Mortality has been the single biggest driver in Alex's life.
  • Legacy is less important to Alex than love and relationships.
  • Legacy is often associated with material possessions and wealth.
  • Living in the present is important because the future is uncertain.
  • Choosing a different path can be scary and driven by fear.
  • Opportunity often comes with privilege and support infrastructure.

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Alex's Decision to Disappoint His Father

  • Alex's father taught him to invest in his name because it stays with him.
  • Alex worked as a management consultant and did space cyber intelligence for the military.
  • He realized that he was living a life that his father wanted him to live.
  • He struggled with disappointing his father but eventually decided to choose his own path.
  • Alex uses a decision-making algorithm based on mortality to make important choices.
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The Role of Mortality in Decision Making

  • Mortality has been the single biggest driver in Alex's life.
  • He uses mortality as a decision-making algorithm to provide clarity and context to decisions.
  • Most decisions don't matter, and mortality helps him focus on what's important.
  • People's subjective well-being follows a smiley face pattern throughout life.
  • People care less about what others think as they approach death.
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The Importance of Legacy

  • Legacy is less important to Alex than love and relationships.
  • Legacy is important to most people because it expands the time horizon over a longer period.
  • Looking at the achievements of ancestors, most people don't know their great great great great great grandfather.
  • Alex's great great grandfather had 400 children, but Alex has never seen any of his legacy.
  • Legacy is subjective and varies from person to person.
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Conclusion

  • Alex's decision to disappoint his father was difficult but necessary for him to live his own life.
  • Mortality is a powerful tool for decision making and helps provide clarity and context.
  • Legacy is subjective and varies from person to person.
  • Ultimately, love and relationships are more important than legacy for Alex.
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The Irrelevance of Legacy

  • Legacy is often associated with material possessions and wealth.
  • However, in the grand scheme of things, legacy is irrelevant.
  • Events such as revolutions can wipe out legacies in an instant.
  • It is impossible to predict the future, so focusing on legacy is pointless.
  • Relinquishing societal and familial pressures can be freeing.
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The Freedom of Living in the Present

  • Living in the present is important because the future is uncertain.
  • Not being alive before birth is the closest experience to not being alive again, which is not frightening.
  • Living in the present is both humbling and freeing.
  • Relinquishing societal and familial pressures can help live in the moment.
  • Living in the present allows for making the best of life.
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Choosing a Different Path

  • Choosing a different path can be scary and driven by fear.
  • Choosing a different path can also be liberating.
  • Choosing a different path can disappoint family and friends.
  • Choosing a different path can be justified by personal goals and desires.
  • Choosing a different path can be a learning experience.
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The Privilege of Opportunity

  • Opportunity often comes with privilege and support infrastructure.
  • Recognizing privilege is important.
  • Privilege can come with baggage and expectations.
  • Immigrant parents may have different expectations due to their experiences.
  • Standing on the shoulders of those who came before is a privilege.
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Why Alex Chose to Disappoint His Dad

  • Alex had to make a decision between his logical and emotional sides.
  • He realized that he was not happy with the life he was leading.
  • He preferred not being alive than living a life that did not make him happy.
  • He learned that it is important to remember the context in which advice is given.
  • He encourages people to try things on for size to see if they fit.
  • He believes that we have more leeway than we give ourselves credit for.
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Using Inversion to Find Joy

  • Alex prefers using the term joy instead of happiness because it is internal.
  • He believes that it is harder to answer the question of what brings joy than what we hate.
  • He suggests using inversion to solve the positive psychology equation.
  • By taking things that would destroy our lives and reversing them, we can find what brings us joy.
  • He encourages people to strip away the things that convince us we are not artists and get back to basics.

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